# The Equitable Home A newsletter for women who are done being the default and men who are done being part of the problem: covering the mental load, unpaid labour, money conversations and how to prepare our daughters for the patriarchy. Page: Feed: --- ## [Women are paying a fortune to avoid the wrong man](https://theequitablehome.substack.com/p/women-are-paying-a-fortune-to-avoid) _2026-08-16 · The Equitable Home_ What women pay each year to be protected from strangers, and what the violence figures actually say. ## [Everything he says will sound like love](https://theequitablehome.substack.com/p/everything-he-says-will-sound-like) _2026-08-09 · The Equitable Home_ A field guide to the language of coercive control, for those certain they would spot it. ## [A man stole three children, and people cheered](https://theequitablehome.substack.com/p/a-man-stole-three-children-and-people) _2026-07-31 · The Equitable Home_ The state told their mother she was not a victim of a crime. ## [Smile for the nice man](https://theequitablehome.substack.com/p/a-man-told-my-daughter-to-smile-and) _2026-07-25 · The Equitable Home_ My daughter did what she was trained to do. So did I. ## [The Tate brothers were arrested again](https://theequitablehome.substack.com/p/the-tate-brothers-were-arrested-again) _2026-07-19 · The Equitable Home_ A guilty verdict will not deliver the full reckoning people wish for. ## [Every male self-improvement guide skips the same line](https://theequitablehome.substack.com/p/every-male-self-improvement-guide) _2026-07-16 · The Equitable Home_ A whole industry has built a check-list for female desire out of jawlines and income. ## [I put a number on my unpaid labour](https://theequitablehome.substack.com/p/i-wrote-an-invoice-to-the-patriarchy) _2026-07-11 · The Equitable Home_ And I created a tool so you can too ## [It's all in your head. Weird, because the diagnosis was in your bones.](https://theequitablehome.substack.com/p/its-all-in-your-head-weird-because) _2026-07-05 · The Equitable Home_ A story about a bone scan, a shrug from a doctor, and decades of medicine built for a body that isn't yours. ## [The case for investing before you feel ready](https://theequitablehome.substack.com/p/the-case-for-investing-before-you) _2026-06-29 · The Equitable Home_ Why the pause costs more than you think – and what to do about it. ## [100,000 Bonus Points Await You (Sponsored)](https://crawlproof.com/a/Jm8sS7t1oNrM) _2026-06-29 · **Sponsored**_ Earn 100,000 bonus points after spending $5,000 in the first 3 months. ## [The good girl problem](https://theequitablehome.substack.com/p/the-good-girl-problem) _2026-06-20 · The Equitable Home_ A working list for raising girls who don't shrink to be liked.