you can have it all, but you cannot do it all. the truth of how I juggle it all as a full-time working mom

hi my loves!

first of all, ahhhh how good does it feel to be writing to you today. between our trip to hawaii, relaunching limitless for cohort 2, getting sick and dealing with the ascension flu about 7x, and trying to juggle all the other myriad of things popping up in life, i feel like the one thing i want to do most (write on substack) took a back seat for a week or two.

so hey, hi, i'm back. even though i was still posting consistently 😂 but i want to be writing EVERY DAY. this space means the literal world to me, and now that limitless is back in the world and cohort 2 is off to the races, i can take a deep, resounding, siiiighhh and say: HELLO!! writer alien mama is back, and i have about a bajillion content ideas for you guys. in fact, i'll share them below the paywall and you can vote on which you wanna see first, and in which order!

today i wanted to talk about something wildly important to me, which is debunking the myth of “doing it all.” probably the top asked question i get in my DM’s (aside from peptides!!) is, “but how do you really do so much all of the time, and how are you not falling apart because of it?”

specifically… how do i work so much as a mom, how do i have this constant stream of output, take care of yourself and workout and travel and live AND show up as a loving wife, a devoted friend, and a present mom who is with her kids so much, is part of the most special homeschool pod of all time, etc. etc.

i'm here to tell you… you can literally have it all. you can have it ALL!! there are zero limits. do you hear that? let’s tattoo it on our foreheads, shall we? we. can. have. it. all. the dream motherhood, the bustling career, the soulmate marriage, the drive for more, the most soul-deep friendships, the list goes on. but, here’s the thing… we cannot DO it all. at least, not all at once. and anyone who tells you otherwise is, sadly, lying.

YOU CAN HAVE IT ALL. BUT YOU CANNOT DO IT ALL (AT LEAST, NOT ALL AT ONCE.)

now, let’s get into it. i'll tell you…

• what it actually looks like for me to do “do it all,”

• the EXACT breakdown of the help/village that we have,

• where our resources go each week to make sure our kids are taken care of in the best and most aligned way possible,

• a snippet of my exact schedule from waking up to going to bed and how much of that is allocated toward work, play, family, etc…

• how it shows up in our marriage (hint: it’s not always rainbows when you’re juggling so much…),

• the truth of how hard (yet fulfilling) it can be to be the self-appointed breadwinner and homeschool (pod, co-op, not the actual teacher hahah but still) mom, all at the same time.

• how i tap into an infinite well of creativity and go HAM while i am in the vortex / create in 5 hours what most people could create in 5 days…

upgrade <3

why yes, yes i am!! 👇🏻