Take control of your sports career and start DOMINATING your competition. The "I'm Not You" Sports Domination Podcast is hosted by Former All American and NFL Running Back Olaniyi Sobomehin ( Niyi Sobo ) , and he walks you through the specific strategies, habits, and most important MINDSET that you need to take your game to the NEXT level. You'll learn how to master your emotions, how to set goals and crush them, and the mindset of the worlds best athletes so you can get the results you want.…
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Overwhelm doesn't come from the size of your goal. It comes from staring at a problem you don't have a perfect plan for and freezing instead of moving. Here's the truth. You don't need a great plan. A plan helps, but it's not the requirement. What you actually need is to attack one specific spot right in front of you. That's how momentum gets built. Not from a flawless blueprint, but from action.…
Whether you're chasing a personal best on the pitch, perfecting a golf swing, building a content brand, mastering a recipe, or showing up as the best parent you can be, the desire to be great at something is righteous. It's wired into you. But desire alone doesn't close the gap between where you are and where you want to be. In this episode, I break down the one habit that separates people who…
The bigger the beef, the longer the clip you need. Conflict is not a sign something is wrong. It is the size of what you are trying to accomplish. Your goal, your problem, your obstacle... that is the beef. And the clip is your capacity to handle it. More bullets. More action. More time and thought. More energy and focus. Most people underestimate what it takes to win and then wonder why the world…
James Allen wrote it over a hundred years ago, and it's still the truest thing I know: "Whatsoever you harbor in the innermost chambers of your heart will, sooner or later, by the inevitable law of reaction, shape itself in your outward life." Your thoughts, your beliefs, your unhealed pain, they don't stay hidden. They show up as your life. In this episode I get into what's actually driving your…
Your ego is running way more decisions than you think, and it's not trying to help you win. In this episode I break down how the ego operates, why bad choices feel right in the moment and good choices feel wrong, and what to actually do about it. The ego isn't the enemy. It's part of being human, and you can't kill it off. What you can do is make it flexible instead of rigid. Right now it's…
At 20, I found out my ex girlfriend was pregnant. I stared at the ceiling for an hour, drowning in guilt, shame, and the fear of what my church going family would think. I ended up back with her. Had another kid. Spent almost 10 years in an on and off toxic relationship, three failed engagements, all because I was chasing my dad's approval instead of building my own life. He was a devoted…
You think you're changing. You're not. Most of what people call growth is just a new way to avoid pain. Your body is wired for survival, homeostasis. Change registers as a threat. So when your relationship fails and you try again, only to repeat the same patterns with new fears layered on top, that's not growth. When you overtrain, get injured, then pull back and call it wisdom, that's not growth…
Your mind won't shut off at night because there are stress loops still open in your brain and nervous system. This is what emotional flow fixes. Every night before bed, set a timer for 7 minutes. Grab a pen and paper or a voice recorder. Then let everything out, every thought, every emotion, every idea sitting in your head. Don't try to organize it. Don't try to do it right. Just keep the thought…
You dominate your sport but hand the keys of your relationship straight to your woman. You call it fairness. It's fear. Athletes and high performers build their careers on clarity, control, and uncompromising standards. Then they get into a relationship and turn into a pillow. Soft. Yielding. Compromising. Borrowing beliefs from Disney movies, social media, and politics instead of running their…
Information is not your problem. Fear is. You have access to AI, YouTube, books, experts, every tool imaginable. And you're still not moving. This episode breaks down exactly why, and what the three things are that will actually determine whether you win from here. The bottleneck is no longer what you know. It's whether you can take in the right information, act on it consistently, and adjust in…
You keep looking at the whole mountain instead of the next step. That's why you're stuck. In this episode, Niyi breaks down a simple mindset from Charlie Munger: you get ahead step by step, not in fast spurts. Using the analogy of a team down 3-0 in a seven-game series and a cross-country drive from Portland to New York, Niyi shows you how to stop drowning in the size of your goal and start…
You're doing something right now that you don't actually want to be doing. Maybe you had a real idea about what you want, and somewhere between having it and acting on it, you talked yourself right out of it. Or maybe it's worse, you're walking around acting like you want something you actually don't. In this episode, Niyi breaks down what's really happening underneath that pattern: the desire…
You've been told worship belongs to God, never you. Today we flip that. Because the same hand that made the ocean, the sunset, every flower that's ever stopped you in your tracks, made you too. So when I say worship yourself, I'm not asking you to replace God. I'm asking you to stop disrespecting His work. This episode is an interactive ritual, not a lecture. I walk you through eight places to…
Self-respect isn't a feeling. It's a contract you make with yourself, and most people break it the second it gets uncomfortable. In Part 2, Niyi breaks down the two biggest mistakes that keep people stuck: making excuses for situations they know are wrong, and wasting years deliberating instead of moving. He gets into why self-respect in relationships isn't about leaving, it's about being willing…
Down 29 points. NBA Finals. Madison Square Garden. The whole city watching. And after the game, somebody asked Jalen Brunson straight up, did the thought of losing cross your mind? He said yes. And then he said something most people missed, because they were too busy celebrating the comeback. In this episode, I break down exactly what Brunson said after the largest comeback in NBA Finals history,…
Kobe said it best: the key to mental toughness is not getting too high or too low. Stay even keel. But most competitors never actually figure out how to do that, because they never deal with their relationship to wins and losses. In this episode, we break down exactly how a Killa celebrates a win and how a Killa learns from a loss. Not the feel-good version. The real version. The one that actually…
You want that Super Bowl ring? Then trying is going to get you killed out here. I'm not talking about the literal Super Bowl. I'm talking about YOUR Super Bowl — whatever that thing is you're chasing that represents greatness in your sport, your career, your life. That thing you KNOW you're capable of but haven't grabbed yet. Here's the problem. You're trying. And trying is weak. Trying says I'm…
Everyone can perform when life is easy. The real question is: What happens when you're down 30 points? What happens when the bills are piling up, motivation disappears, the results aren't coming, and every part of you wants to quit? In this episode, I break down the essential skills required to dominate under pressure. Not dominance as a feeling. Not dominance as confidence. But dominance as the…
This episode is built around one central truth: Self-respect is not a feeling. It's an internal agreement. Most people think self-respect is confidence, discipline, or a list of good habits. But real self-respect goes deeper than behavior. It's the internal standard that governs how you treat yourself, what you tolerate, the boundaries you enforce, and the choices you make when fear, emotion, or…
For years, I taught athletes and high performers how to access Killer Instinct — how to lock in, perform under pressure, and compete at a high level. But after going through one of the hardest seasons of my life, I realized something deeper: Performance strategies alone are not enough. Because no matter how ambitious, disciplined, or talented you are… if the patterns underneath the surface remain…
DAY 4 of The Dominance Blueprint. Everybody says they want self-mastery. Everybody says they want change. Everybody says they want the truth. Until the truth becomes uncomfortable. In this episode, we talk about why awareness is so difficult… and why most people stay trapped in the same emotional loops, habits, fears, and patterns for their entire lives. Because the patterns sabotaging your…
DAY 3 of The Dominance Blueprint. Most people think dominance is confidence, motivation, positive thinking, or "feeling locked in." But if that were true… why do you keep losing the feeling? Why do the same patterns keep returning? Why does self sabotage keep showing up? Why do you know what to do… but still don't do it? Because positive thinking is not awareness. Positive thinking tries to…
Most athletes think their problem is confidence, discipline, focus, or mindset. So they try positive thinking. Visualization. Motivation. Meditation. More work. More pressure. And sometimes it helps… For a little while. Then the same fear, tension, self-doubt, overthinking, and self-sabotaging habits come right back. Why? Because those patterns were never random. They were built years ago to…
This is Day 1 of a 5-part series on Dominance.....and Dominance isn't what you think it is. It's not control. It's not force. It's not grinding yourself into the ground trying to prove something. Dominance is a state of being. It's you, fully expressed, fully present, fully in control of your internal world. You've felt it before. In business, when you're locked in and creating effortlessly. In…
"The game loves me… so if I leave, she'll probably drop a tear." That line isn't just about talent — it's about how you show up. In this episode, we're talking about what it really means to be the realest — not in the eyes of fans, followers, or other athletes… but in your own eyes. Because the realest thing you'll ever see isn't another athlete. It's the man in the mirror. Right now, too many…
ou say you want more. More success. More discipline. More results. But your life doesn't reflect it. You're chasing goals… while entertaining relationships that drain your energy, distract your focus, and create unnecessary chaos. But Women aren't the problem. Your standards are. Your leadership is. Your willingness to tolerate misalignment is. It is not normal, and it is not acceptable, to be in…
You're not lacking information. You're drowning in it. Every time you hit a problem, you reach for something external...another podcast, another book, another scroll session, hoping it'll give you the answer. And sometimes it does. But here's the truth… You've trained yourself to depend on outside information instead of developing your own. That's the weakness. Because real growth doesn't come…
"Everybody wants to be a big dog… until it's time to do big dog shit." - Philthy Rich In this episode, we're cutting through the fantasy of success and getting real about what it actually takes to become and stay dominant . It's not about your first win, your first $100K, or your early momentum...it's about who you are after you lose it, after you get tested, after it gets hard . We break down the…
In Part 2 of the Ego Mastery series , we break down what an aligned, trained ego actually looks like in elite athletes and peak performers, and how it shows up under real pressure. You'll learn: What's happening internally when an athlete is calm, decisive, and locked in Why aligned performers experience low mental noise and faster decision-making How mistakes become data instead of danger The…
You've been lied to about the Ego. "Ego is the enemy." "His ego got in the way." "Get rid of your ego." Wrong. Your ego isn't a villain — it's a survival system you created as a child. It's your internal brand, the identity you built to stay safe, get approval, avoid shame, and maintain control. The problem? The same strategies that protected you then are sabotaging you now. In this episode,…
In this episode, Killa Fonte breaks down why you feel stuck....not from lack of talent, but from avoiding the pain required to grow. Learn how to embrace discomfort, use pain to uncover your limiting beliefs, organize your plans, execute with discipline, and reward yourself like a true professional. Dig deep and find the diamonds in your own dirt. Click here to book a free consultation with Niyi…
When the heat's on, most people panic. They get "happy feet." Just like a quarterback in the pocket — they lose composure, abandon their fundamentals, and start scrambling for survival. That's when mistakes happen. Bad throws. Missed opportunities. Chaos. In this episode, Niyi breaks down why pressure exposes your lack of systems, how panic hijacks your performance, and what separates calm,…
Most people try to build discipline by doing everything at once—and end up burning out. In this episode, I break down a smarter approach: how to build sustainable discipline by mastering one habit at a time and turning it into a pillar of your identity. You'll learn the mechanics that stop people from staying consistent, the mindset shifts you need to make discipline a muscle instead of an on/off…
Victim mentality isn't just weakness—it's a mindset that keeps even strong people stuck. In this episode, learn the difference between being victimized and living with a victim mentality, and how to root it out if you want real success. You'll Learn: The difference between victimized (event) vs. victim mentality (mindset) Signs you're trapped in victim thinking How Killas take full responsibility…
Episode Summary In this Bars episode, Niyi Sobo breaks down the line from Motivational Purpose : "Playas don't keep score, they just keep scoring." Most people chase results out of desperation, hoping wins will finally make them feel worthy. But true killas don't play that game. They align their goals with their core mission, focus on mastery of the process, and act from conviction and power. Wins…
Episode Summary In this Bars episode, Niyi Sobo unpacks a line from Philthy Rich's Searchin : "Listening to the OG's they got the most game!" But not every OG is worth listening to. Niyi breaks down what makes a true OG—someone who leads with mindset, protects the game, has earned their wisdom through scars and experience, and lives as a real example of success. He also exposes the signs of a bad…
Episode Summary In this Bars episode, Niyi Sobo breaks down a line from Pooh Hefner's track More Than Me" The words aren't just lyrics—they're a blueprint for achievement. Niyi unpacks the wisdom in these three simple phases: focus your attention, create a plan, and stay committed. If you're serious about getting what you want, this is the formula. Key Takeaways Success requires three phases:…
Winning comes down to one thing: focus . In this episode, Niyi Sobo breaks down why your point of attention determines your thoughts, your actions, and your results. If your focus is off, your actions will be off. But when you learn to control and discipline your focus—directing it toward your goals, your process, and what's actually in your control—you put yourself in position to win. Key…
Join me for an illuminating conversation with Jim Murphy , performance coach and author of Inner Excellence: Train Your Mind for Extraordinary Performance and the Best Possible Life . We explore how to find inner peace , stay poised under pressure, and transform identity—even when the stakes are highest. In this episode, you'll learn: The foundation of Inner Excellence : Why Jim spent five years…
In this episode, I break down a bar from Philthy Rich, reminding you that something is better than nothing. When you are going through a tough time, it will feel tempting to hold yourself to the same output standard. But sometimes, its better to go slow than have no momemtum at all. Clcik here to transofrm your mindset and your results.
In the last episode of the Killas Code series, I break down the law of efficiency, and how to apply systems thinking to all areas of life. Click here to work with me.
In this next installment of the Killas Code Series, I break down the importance of having clarity while you navigate through your jungle to achieve success. Click here for a free consultation.
In this epsidoe, I break down the Killas approach to dealing with and mastering pressure.
Physical pain is one thing, but what about the emotions like frustration, sadness...even depression. What is the proper way to deal with emotions like these, so they don't sabotage your progress? In this episode, I break it down. Click here to join the 1 on 1 coaching program.
In this epsiode, I show you how to completely transform your relationship to losses, failures and mistakes, and give you a strategy and framework for turning any loss into success. Apply for 1 on 1 Coaching with Niyi Sobo (Only 2 spots available)
Most people don't know how to control their desire to win, and make it work for them. In this epsode, I break down the proper way to view winning, and how to turn your burning desire to win into an asset, instead of anxiety and extra pressure. Click here to join the SMP nation (FREE)
In this epsiode, I break down the importance of focusing on growth, without losing your desire to acccomplish and succeed. It's a tricky balance, but honoring the law of growth will make you improve faster, be more mentaly tough, and ultimately reach more of your goals. Click here to join the SMP Nation. It's Free.
Only 24 hours left. That's 24 hours to transform your mindset, approach your craft like a true professional and implement systems that will change your life forever. That means eliminating deadly habits like procrastination and overthinking. It means being supremely organized and a true master with time. It means being held ACCOUNTABLE, instead of roaming the jungle like a stray dog. Structure.…
Click here to join Killer Instinct before it's too late! (it closes on March 31st, 11pm pst) In this epsiode, I break down how to build more wisdom, which is the ability to act in accordance with the way things are, to produce the results you want.
As a Killa, you must understand that to dominate is to control. You must understand what control means, and how to build your career upon levels and layers of control. Click here to join Killer Instinct.
