Recently, Wicker released the trailer for a monster love story based on the short story The Wicker Husband by Ursula Wills-Jones and the internet has been a buzz. At first you might think what the actual f is going on, but as the trailer continues, the story resonates all too well for most women.
I love Alexander Skarsgård, but him made of wicker was a little jarring at first, then I kind of was into it like most of the population.
Who remembers True Blood? I LOVED the series of books and the HBO series based on the books. Alexander Skarsgård was Eric. While most were lusting after Edward I was all about Eric.
This sentient husband or monster turns out to be kind, thoughtful, attentive, respectful, and takes care (in bed and out) of his wife. The men of the village go from negging the poor spinster woman for being alone so much that she has a husband made, but God forbid she be happily married because now the men of the village are seen for what they truly are.
Give IKEA’s marketing team a raise, hopping on the virality of the trailer release.
After being trolled by an incel (always with no profile photo) of my body, I posted a series of stories bitching about how men are not lonely enough and by men I mean loser baby boys because real men wouldn’t comment on a woman’s body.
Because the trailer had just released and IKEA had posted this gem, I brought up how women would rather marry a man made of Wicker the pickings are so slim.
My friend sent me this TikTok that really breaks down why women are so drawn to this movie.
The creator opens the video with “men are looking for a woman that no longer exists and women are looking for a man that does not exist yet.”
What’s even more eye opening are the comments under this video.
While I’m not in the dating scene and haven’t been for 15 years, I see the changes and it horrifying.
As a girl mom, I’m terrified for my daughter.
Maybe things seem worse because men stopped pretending and we now are speaking out as women or maybe we have had enough and no longer tolerate the bullshit. We have options now, which seem to terrify the male population as they try to undo it all.
I will say the one upside of growing up with an abusive evil father is having an incredible discernment of men, often considered too critical (if there’s such a thing, but that’s just the patriarchy speaking).
I got lucky, many women from abusive upbringings tend to repeat the patterns or choose what they perceive as a safe partner who ends up being a different kind of abuse. It’s hard to grow up with a sense of self and self-esteem when your constantly being torn down by the male figure you should feel safest with.
Spending most of my teens and 20’s as an actor in Hollywood further honed my instincts about men.
There’s a part of me that could have easily made the excuse “well he’s not as bad as my dad, it could be worse.”
Something I heard too much of growing up: excuses for the abuser. My mom always focusing on the “positives” of the piece of shit.
But I always felt in my core that settling for a partner would be worse than being alone.
I am not saying I didn’t have my fair share of relationship whoas, inappropriate treatment, and assaults, I did. I’m 42, back then it just happened a lot and we moved on, avoiding future incidents best we could. Most of the time we wouldn’t even name the behavior, rather accepting it as part of dating or being a woman.
I am also not saying that despite my best efforts to choose the best partner for myself, we haven’t had major struggles. We have. Relationships are hard, but I would never accept disrespect, abuse, or being thought of as less than an equal in a relationship. If that were the case, I could have a few dogs, cats, and an apartment full of wicker furniture to keep me happy.
It breaks my heart to hear stories of women realizing after having kids they choose the wrong partner. To learn that their partner’s beliefs are so far off, that they actually hate women.
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Anyone, especially of the male species that has a problem with the trailer should raise a red flag. Why are they so threatened by a movie of a man made of wicker? Could it be they identify more with the men of the village?
Women want love, devotion, passion, consistency, and competency. That is what Wicker is representing. Dae
Instead of hearing what a woman want and deciding to move on because they do not want to put in the effort, majority of men these days want to beat the woman down, even go as far as manipulating them into the relationship before letting the inner monster out and if they can’t hide the monster away long enough to get a few dates, they bitch and moan and troll women online.
While I am happily married, if anything were to ever happen to my husband I don’t think I’ll ever date again. Being a girl mom alone has my hackles up. How could I ever date and bring strangers around her? Would I ever trust another man with her? I don’t think I could.
There was over a decade of work put in before we had her. It takes time to know someone.
Then there’s the whole dating itself. It seems exhausting and I rather just find friends to hang out with. The baggage was heavy enough in my 20s, imagine the weight of it in my 40s or older!
I was also happily single before meeting my husband and had no real intention of getting married EVER, he kind of tricked me into it. While I love the companionship, I got lucky. We had the same ideals, beliefs, and goals and continue to share them as we grow. I’m not sure I’d get so lucky again and the buzz around Wicker is proof of this.
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