A little bonus post today because I feel the writer’s fire flooding through me.
I am absolutely loving this season on Substack, it feels like we are now officially harking back to the golden age of blogging. There were some ideas I woke up with this morning, so I opened up the Substack editor and felt the desire to write them while they are fresh on my mind.
Essentially, this tiny essay (maybe not so tiny) is a sign you might need to call your power back and examine what you tolerate.
I’m doing the same and have been doing the same for the last five years or so, so this is really anchored awareness for me now.
What do you I mean by that, you might say?
Well, there’s a lot of BS happening in the world right now (there always is) where people are handing their power over because they forget the inherent power they have to stand in their own strength and presence. It can happen in the most unsuspecting ways, until you look back and realize that something isn’t in alignment any more. Perhaps something feels off, like a funky smell in the fridge you can’t quite place your finger on. I’ve seen and experienced this firsthand in relationships, in business and in family dynamics over the years.
Deep empaths, people with open hearts and energy fields, tend to struggle the most when people cross their boundaries. They feel it and then take responsibility for the thing they didn’t even do. They try to make it better somehow. They try to make sense of why people walk all over them, when they ultimately let them do it in the first place.
I remember many years ago Dr. Phil said on his show: People treat you how you let them.
It’s like being in a long term relationship with many red flags you choose to ignore. You ignore the signs that certain actions make you feel sick to your stomach and you choose not to stand up for yourself and speak up. It can feel like a breach of trust that pulls the rug out from right underneath you. Slowly, but surely, you trick yourself into thinking that it’s something you did or that your feelings are probably an overreaction or a very nasty case of paranoia.
The key is that love should feel like love. It should be shown through consistent loving actions.
Ignoring your intuition might seem like an extreme scenario, but I’ve heard this kind of self betrayal many times, from women especially. I’ve seen it in business too, where people are used for their talent and skills only to be dumped like a hot stack of bricks when the company has acquired what they want.
Some families have dynamics where one person is the one they lean on and called on in all situations. They are generous and never ask for anything for themselves in return. They become so used to carrying everyone’s weight that they forget what it feels like to live for themselves.
It’s important to remember that these painful seasons do come to an end, when we choose them to.
A toxic relationship can fall away and create space for a healthy one to manifest.
Being in a job or career where you don’t feel appreciated can open the door to a new entrepreneurial venture.
Setting boundaries with family can actually create beautiful healing and an opportunity to connect at a deeper level.
So…if this resonates, here is what I did to climb my way back into my own power after difficult seasons in my own life.
Speak your truth: even if your voice shakes as they say. The truth will always be revealed and it will always set you free.
Trust your gut: if it looks like a turd and smells like a turd, it probably is. Your intuition knows what’s up and it worth listening to.
Stand in conviction: you have full permission to stand up for what you believe in.
Own your creative energy: this is how you manifest your way out and through any situation and season. One of the best remedies for the people pleaser and the empath is to make art. Write, paint, make music. Manifestation begins with creative expression. If you like the sound of this join the Creative Manifestation community on Skool.
I’m interested to hear your thoughts. Please feel free to leave a comment below.
Until next time!
With Love,
Sarah Prout.
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