Family’s. They’re one of the best spiritual training grounds you’ll find.
A complex mix of people and backgrounds, cultures and generations melted together and told to find common ground. Extended family literally chucks you into a spiritual battlefield at times. But in the name of growth… I wanted to share this reflection from a recent family gathering, which taught me a lot, even all these years on with Human Design, about decision making authorities.
It’s not enough for us to just know our decision making authority.
We have to use it, and be unwavered by other people’s triggers, projections and baggage at the same time - compassionately, but with conviction.
You see, learning about your authority is one thing. Using it in peaceful settings where you know it’s safe is another. But using it in challenging situations when you could just easily revert to fawn mode, knowing full well when you open you’re mouth you’re about to get a projection of someone else’s wounds pierce you right through the chest… that’s another thing entirely, and it’s often the reason we don’t follow through with our authority. Not because we can’t. But because to do so will trigger others, consciously or unconsciously, and we don’t feel safe in that triggered moment. People, when triggered are, afterall, unpredictable. And our body senses that.
So when you use your authority…
Do you trust it even when you know it’s going to ruffle feathers?
And are you aware of just how triggering you using your authority can be on others? Not because you need to control their outcome, but because you need to stand in your decision with unwavering confidence to really advocate for yourself.
It’s a work in progress.
Where do you change your own decision to keep the peace with other people?
No matter how small it might seem (and it may well be in little ways) the problem is that it’s continuining to train your system that it’s not safe to stand in your decisions, and that’s a bigger problem…
Becky x
Ps, if you need to start consciously working with your authority, it’s contained in detail in the Soul Map and the Remembering Path audios and weekly live zooms. Come and join us as we make self-knowledge fun and useful! https://mysoulmap.co.uk/grab-your-soul-map
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