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Queer Collective Podcast

The Queer Collective Podcast is a bi-weekly queer podcast that takes a deep-dive into every subgroup of the LGBTQ2S+ community. Co-hosts Emily and Karbon, the dynamic duo navigating their own relationships and gender identities, invite guests to provide detailed perspectives on a specific topic. Whether you're interested in bisexuality, queer sex-ed, compulsory heterosexuality, or any facet of LGBTQ+ life, we cover it all with a unique blend of casual conversation and deep journalism. For…

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Dating Wasn’t Built for Neurodivergent People

Your crush takes three hours to text back, and suddenly your brain has written, directed and cancelled the entire relationship. We’re unpacking queer neurodivergent dating, sex and intimacy with psychotherapist Frankie Talon Rose: rejection sensitivity, limerence, masking, sensory overload, autistic flirting, kink, consent and the ADHD brain thinking about laundry mid-hookup. From AuDHD dating…

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The Struggle of Being Aromantic in a Love-Obsessed World

We’re unpacking aromanticism. What if the person everyone calls cold, avoidant, or emotionally unavailable simply doesn’t experience romantic attraction? We’re tracing the misunderstood world of aromanticism; From the rise of the aro label and the pressure of amatonormativity to the myths that confuse aromantic people with trauma, autism, asexuality, or commitment issues. We’re also asking the gay…

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Lesbians and Bisexual Women Don’t Trust Each Other

We’re dragging lesbian-bisexual relationship drama out of the group chat and onto the mic. From “she’ll leave me for a man” panic to bisexual erasure, biphobia, anxious attachment, queer gatekeeping, and the cursed phrase “basically a lesbian now,” we’re unpacking the insecurities sapphic couples whisper about but rarely say out loud. It’s messy, tender, deeply researched, and yes, someone is…

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Why No One Believes Bisexuals

Bisexuality has been gaslit for literally thousands of years. We’re tracing the chaotic, horny, surprisingly academic history of bisexuality. From ancient queer goddesses and emperors building cities for their boyfriends, to Freud being confidently incorrect (again), 1970s sapphic beef, and the Bisexual Manifesto. It’s funny, messy, dramatic, and weirdly validating. Turns out bisexuals weren’t…

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Why No One Can Tell You’re Gay

From hanky codes, Polari, earrings, camp, gay voice, and all the tiny clues queer people have used to find each other in public; We’re unpacking why queer visibility has always existed somewhere between safety and recognition, and why so many femmes, nonbinary people, and straight-passing queers still feel painfully unclockable today. From secret codes to modern aesthetics, this episode asks what…

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The Adult Industry’s Queerest Secret

The adult entertainment industry has a very dirty little secret: some of its most profitable fantasies are queer, but the people behind them often aren’t. We’re diving into the strange, censored, and scandalously political history of trans and sapphic adult media; from ancient lesbian imagery and underground screenings to the feminist s*x wars, On Our Backs , and trans creators reclaiming the…

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Society Hates Difficult Women. Queer People Worship Them

A diva isn’t born, she’s labeled. And usually right when she stops behaving. We’re unpacking how a word that once meant goddess became shorthand for “too much,” and why powerful, sexual, opinionated women keep getting recast as problems instead of icons. From 1800s opera stages to anti-Nazi spies, civil rights legends, and the queer community that turned them into coded symbols of survival and…

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Are Trans Brains Different? The Science Says…

Being trans isn’t a trend… but the world sure panicked like it was. We’re diving into the science behind the transgender brain, the rise of the “social contagion” theory, and the messy history of sexology that started it all. Let's break down what research actually shows about gender identity and biology (and what it doesn’t), why this question is more dangerous than it seems, and how the answers…

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Most People Are Dating on Autopilot

You think your dating choices are yours… but there's invisible rules shaping your sex, love, and identity. However, there is a disruption that queer, kinky, and non-monogamous people are leading, exposing amatonormativity, and the fantasy of desire that isn’t actually yours. To break down how to unlearn, rebuild, and finally choose yourself, we put Feeld’s new Reflections tool to the test; because…

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Why the Church Makes People Kinky

The Church might be one of the gayest institutions in history and no one’s talking about it. We’re diving into the hidden queer and kinky world inside religious life. From lesbian nuns to closeted clergy, and how centuries of repression shaped it all. Connecting history, theory, and lived experience to ask: does religion suppress desire, or secretly create it? Because once you see it, you can’t…

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Men Are Losing Women (And They Don't Know Why)

Vox crowned 2025 the year of decentering men. But lesbians were doing it first. We’re unpacking whether “man-hating” is a dead-end, a coping mechanism, or a misread of a much older feminist strategy, with Olivia (aka Olisunvia). Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink CONTACT OLIVIA:…

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The Identity Even Progressive Spaces Get Wrong

Studs aren’t a vibe, they’re a lineage. We’re unpacking the history, politics, and lived reality of Black masculine lesbians at the crossroads of race, gender, and desire. From the swagger and softness, Harlem Renaissance sapphics, stud vs butch, AGs, Stud4Stud discourse, toxic masculinity, and why Black masculinity plays by different rules. Joined by Elisabeth Clarke, Nadine Wiltshire, and Kiké,…

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The Gender Mystery Historians Still Can’t Explain

The feral, gender-defiant life of a Canadian WWI veteran who ditched a wealthy upbringing, lived alone in the woods, enlisted three times, fought on the Serbian front as a man, got captured as a prisoner of war, fell in love in a prison camp, and spent decades confusing barbers and bureaucrats alike. We’re queering the Great War, unpacking gender outlaw survival, and asking the spicy question:…

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Stone Top And Pillow Princess: The Lesbian S*x Dynamic People Don’t Understand

Stone butch lesbians. Pillow princesses. An erotic dynamic that fits like a deviant little puzzle and has been wildly misunderstood ever since. Syd and Addy give us all the details from their own personal experiences, tackle myths and misconceptions, and get radically honest about desire, boundaries, and sexual alignment. Join Our Patreon:…

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The History and Secrets of How Lesbians Have S*x

We’re cracking open the secret, censored, and wildly creative history of lesbian sex. We’re digging through ancient poems, forbidden medical texts, barroom gossip, queer zines, and the techniques they definitely didn’t teach in sex ed. Tracing sapphic desire from Sappho’s bedroom to modern queer culture and exposing just how inventive lesbians have always been. Foxers: https://bekomando.com/…

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The Queer Community Is Tearing Itself Apart (Here’s Why) ft. Taha

Every corner of queer TikTok is on fire. Hot takes, call-out wars, and “LGB without the T” chaos, and suddenly the biggest culture war isn’t left vs. right, it’s inside our own community. We’re diving into the history of queer infighting, from Stonewall splits to homonormativity, moral panics, tender-queer discourse, and why assimilation vs. liberation is the eternal gay cage match. Use code…

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The Bisexual Man’s Field Guide to Dating Men ft. Mark and Bobby Box

You’re bi (or gay), and honestly? You’ve got no idea what to do with your hands. We got you. Sex columnist Bobby Box and bi icon Mark Erenberg join us for a crash course in gay sex 101. From flirting with men and building confidence to actually being good in bed. We’re talking imposter syndrome, gay panic, and the do’s and don’ts of bottoming… all with a wink, a giggle, and a lube bottle. Think of…

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Is Bisexuality The Same As Pansexuality? ft. Leo And Taty

Pansexuality: it’s not just bisexuality with extra glitter. We’re tracing its wild origins from the BDSM underground to the free love 70s to the nonbinary explosion of the 2010s, because this label has range. We’re unpacking the bi vs. pan debate, the pan pride flag’s secret meanings, and why pansexuality has always been the sexy rebel of the LGBTQ+ alphabet. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off…

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The Lesbian Relationship Myths We Can’t Kill ft. Shannon

Do all lesbians think the same? We’re digging into the big three stereotypes. Emotional intensity, U-Hauling, and lesbian bed death, to see if Sapphics really do relationships differently. We’re breaking down where these tropes come from, what’s rooted in history, and what’s just straight-up lesbophobic myth. Joined by hopeless romantic & poet lesbian play boy poetry, we’re asking: are lesbians…

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How to Hook Up With Your Friends ft. Syd And Zhané

Is sleeping with your friends a queer love language or just lesbian chaos theory? We’re spilling on crushes, cuddle hookups, and why queers can’t stop blurring the friendship line. With Zhané and Syd, we talk jealousy, intimacy, ENM vs monogamy, and every messy “oops, I made out with my bestie” scenario. Gay disasters, incoming. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/…

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The Epidemic of Masc Fragility ft. Ms. Myles And Danielle Lastres

Femininity: feared, fetishized, and slapped with a “no fems” dating bio. We’re pulling femmephobia apart with Ms. Myles and Danielle. From its colonial, patriarchal origin story to the high school boys who think they have to one-up each other in a contest to sound the most heterosexual. CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains mentions of SA. Please take care of yourself while listening, and feel…

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“I’m Not a Lesbian Anymore, I’m Queer” ft. Tyra Blizzard And King

From Oscar Wilde to JoJo Siwa, the word queer has been called a slur, a theory, an aesthetic, and a whole damn vibe. We’re diving deep into the messy, sexy, defiant legacy of queerness with icons Tyra Blizzard and King a.k.a DJ Soundboi. Why are so many ex-lesbians saying “I’m queer now”? Can cis-hets be queer? Is “queer” just bisexuality in a trench coat?? We’re reclaiming, unpacking, and…

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You’re Not Gay, You Struggle With Same-Sex Attraction ft. Luke Wilson

What do electric shocks, shame sermons, and fake science have in common? They were all used to “pray the gay away.” We’re diving into the twisted world of conversion therapy with survivor and scholar Lucas Wilson. From evangelical trauma to the ex-gay movement’s most delulu masc villains, we’re unpacking the pseudoscience, propaganda, and lifelong scars of this deadly practice, and how survivors…

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Relationship Anarchy Changed How I Love ft. Pat

Monogamy is optional. Hierarchies are fake. And ‘the one’ doesn't exist? We're diving headfirst into the world of Relationship Anarchy with queer academic and certified hottie Pat. From dismantling the dating rulebook to navigating multiple partners without losing your mind, this episode unpacks radical love, intimacy without ownership, and why friendship might just be the new forever. Queer…

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Is Black Masculinity Feared in Queer Spaces? ft. Haviah Mighty And DJ Blackcat

Black masculinity is feared, fetishized, and fiercely policed; so what happens when queerness enters the chat? We’re talking masc performance as survival, straight Black men’s discomfort with queerness, and why traditional masculinity is flopping in 2025. With Haviah Mighty and DJ Blackcat, we’re queering the blueprint and dragging patriarchy by the lacefront. Queer Poverty Project:…

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No Fats, No Femmes, No Asians: The Grindr Industrial Complex ft. Humza and Darynel

Gay dating can be messy. From hookup culture and emotional avoidance to Grindr’s racial hierarchy, we’re diving into the chaos with guests Darynel Weekly and Mango Lassi. We’re unpacking the trauma, the body standards, the “no fats no femmes,” and giving you tools to heal, find real connection, and maybe even enjoy the apps without losing your soul. Download FEELD:…

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The Lesbian Identity Crisis: Trans And Non-Binary?! ft. Jay-Marie and Eirene

Think all lesbians are women? Think again. We're queering the label with trans and non-binary lesbians who are redefining what it means to love, resist, and rebel. From gender euphoria to TERF drama to navigating dating apps as a gender outlaw, this episode dives into the messy, sexy, revolutionary legacy of lesbianism. Featuring archival hot takes, community tension, and maybe even a little dyke…

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Asian Fetishization And Hyper-Sexualization ft. Ky and Charlotte

If you've ever been called “exotic,” or told you're one of the “good minorities” this one’s for you. We’re unpacking the fetishization of Asian bodies, the myth of the model minority, and the tension between queerness and cultural belonging. With personal stories from two badass artists, Charlotte and Ky, we explore femme fetish tropes, family pressure, and the art of de-centering whiteness, while…

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Born Intersex And Surgically Erased ft. Bailey Archer and Noise

You were told sex is binary, XX or XY, case closed. But what if we told you that’s just redhead math? We’re unpacking the intersex experience with two brilliant guests: Noise (the intersex karaoke witch) and Bailey (trans, intersex, and hot). We’re diving into the science, the history, the surgeries, the shame and why “normal” is a scam. Expect gay giggles, medical rage, and radical joy. Vizzy…

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Do Queer Muslim Women Exist?! ft. Urvah Khan

Betterhelp: betterhelp.com/COLLECTIVE Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA Queer. Muslim. Rockstar. Activist. Urvah Khan is all of the above, and she’s here to spill the tea on holding identities the world says don’t mix. We’re talking queerness, faith, feminism, and the fight for liberation, plus why the West needs to stop acting like all Muslim women are oppressed. Urvah…

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The Secret to Sapphic Sex and Dating ft. Zhané and Eva Bloom

Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off https://splashblanket.com/en-ca Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA Losing your sapphic v-card? Terrified you’ll fumble the bag? We got you. This episode is your survival guide to sapphic sex, confidence, flirting, and ahem hands-on skills included. We’re joined by queer sex-ed pro Eva Bloom and sapphic…

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How to Open Your Relationship (and Actually Make It Work) ft. The Polyamory Therapy Collective

So, you wanna open up your relationship but don’t wanna crash and burn in a fiery mess of jealousy and regret? We got you. We’re joined by three queer, non-monogamous therapists from the Polyamory Therapy Collective to give you the ultimate survival guide to ENM—how to start the convo, avoid rookie mistakes, and actually enjoy the ride. We’re unpacking couples’ privilege, imposter syndrome, and…

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The Great Lesbian Divide: Butch vs Femme ft. Pkat and Haviah Mighty

What does it really mean to be a lesbian? Is it a vibe? A gender? A political stance? We’re diving headfirst into the evolution of lesbian identity—breaking down butch and femme history, masculinity, queerness, and what it truly means to de-center men (spoiler: it’s liberating). With three wildly different lesbians at the table - Haviah, Pkat, and Karbon - we’re serving history, academic drama,…

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Biohack Your Menstrual Cycle And Stop Suffering! Ft. Miranda of The Period Lab

What if we told you that your period pain isn’t just a fact of life — and that your 9-5 job might actually be making it worse? We’re hacking the menstrual cycle with Miranda Popen, hormone expert and founder of The Period Lab. We’re talking PMS myths, biohacking for better energy, and why the system was not built for menstruators (or trans folks on HRT). Plus, are your “healthy” foods actually…

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Intro To BDSM: Creating A Dom Persona ft. Yaz

What if embracing dominance could unlock parts of yourself you never knew existed? We’re diving into the art (and magic) of crafting a Dom persona with our friend Yaz - the non-binary, bisexual, Middle Eastern powerhouse you may remember from our polyamory episodes. We're talking confidence, embodiment, and the kinky intersections of BDSM and gender exploration. Plus, Yaz spills their secrets on…

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Navigating Conflict in Polyamorous Relationships ft. Decolonizing Love

Polyamory with a sprinkle of chaos, a dash of queer magic, and a whole lot of deep questions? We’re tackling the juicy challenges of ethical non-monogamy—from jealousy to ADHD-induced impulsivity—and answering real audience dilemmas with expert guests Millie & Nick from Decolonizing Love. Plus, we explore the BIPOC experience in poly spaces, unpack the power of decolonizing love, and ask if…

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Why Is Queer Mental Health Worse Than Our Straight Counterparts? ft. June Lam of CAMH

Friend, foe, or messy ex, what’s psychiatry’s role in queer lives? This week, we sit down with Dr. June Lam, psychiatrist and trans healthcare expert, to tackle mental health disparities, navigating family drama, unpacking shame, and surviving the holidays. Plus, we dive into the politics of medical transitions, debunk “fast-tracking” myths, and confront detransition discourse with science (and…

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Why Are There More Bisexual Women Than Men?! ft. Brock Boyne

Why are bisexual men the invisible icons of the LGBTQ+ community? In this episode, we’re joined by the fabulous Brock Boyne (they/he), a horticulturist-turned-bisexual icon, as we dig into the stigma, stereotypes, and societal pressures keeping bi men in the shadows. From first queer flirts to the intersection of masculinity, race, and fluidity, we explore what it really means to embrace…

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What Does It Mean to Be Asexual and Aromantic? ft. Cody Daigle-Orians

What if love and attraction aren't the same thing at all? In this episode, we’re joined by Cody Daigle-Orians, aka Ace Dad Advice, an asexuality educator, influencer, and author who’s here to help us break down asexual and aromantic identities with humor and heart. From discovering your ace identity to navigating relationships outside society's romantic and sexual norms, Cody offers insights, ally…

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Surrogacy: Everything You Need To Know But Were Too Afraid To Ask ft. Nici of Hive Surrogacy

The nitty-gritty of surrogacy—how it works, why it matters, and what the queer community needs to know. We’re joined by Nici, co-founder of Hive Surrogacy, who’s here to speak on queer birthing, the dark side of the global surrogacy industry, and what it’s like to be a surrogate herself. Is surrogacy empowering, exploitative, or a little bit of both? Let’s talk ethical baby-making, power dynamics,…

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What Does It Mean to Be Indigenous & Queer? ft. Chelazon Leroux & Haley Robinson

Humanity’s oldest, most suppressed queer identities, 2-Spirit. Tiktok star Chelazon Leroux and actor/model Haley Robinson tear open the wounds of colonial erasure and reclaim the beauty of being both Indigenous and Queer. From navigating intergenerational trauma to confronting settler microaggressions, they expose the raw truth about what it means to exist at the intersection of queerness and…

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The DARK History Of Women's Sports ft. Tyra Blizzard

Transvestigation conspiracy theories are targeting women athletes. Are trans athletes really threatening fairness in sports, or is this just another excuse for exclusion? We’re joined by pro-athlete and gender nerd Tyra Blizzard to break down the myths, misinformation, and the shady politics behind it all. From Olympic scandals to TERFs being TERFs, we’re here to give you the tea on trans…

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I Was Forced to ‘Prove’ I’m Queer To The Government ft. Latoya Nugent of Rainbow Railroad

What happens when your home turns hostile? We dive deep into the raw realities of LGBTQI+ refugees with activist Latoya Nugent, who fled Jamaica with the help of Rainbow Railroad. From persecution to queer liberation, learn about the global trends in anti-LGBTQI+ violence, how resettlement systems are failing refugees, and what it’s like to ‘prove’ you’re queer enough to escape. Download FEELD:…

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Polyamory: The History You Never Thought to Ask

Was it agriculture, capitalism, or the patriarchy that pushed us into "pair bonding"? Are humans actually wired to stay faithful, or is cheating in our genes? We'll dissect scientific theories, challenge old-school narratives, and maybe even giggle a little about group sex and jealousy. Whether you’re team monogamy or polyamory curious, this episode is your ticket to understanding the wild,…

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Dating Someone With HIV ft. Myles Sexton

The AIDS epidemic. There's a fierce stigma that still lingers, and the raw, real-life experiences of those living with HIV are often portrayed negatively. Our fabulous guest, Myles Sexton—a queer fashion nomad and HIV activist—shares their powerful journey, slaying myths and spreading love. From dating advice to radical vulnerability, this episode serves the tea with a side of empowerment. Let's…

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What Does It Mean To Be Non-Binary? Ft. Halal Bae & Gay Jesus

Society loves boxes, but what if they don’t fit? Dive into the fabulous world of non-binary identities! Featuring Heath V. Salazar, aka "Gay Jesus," and Halal Bae from Canada’s Drag Race, we explore gender beyond the binary, tackle misconceptions, and celebrate the joy of being non-binary. Whether you're new to the concept or living it, this episode is your gateway to understanding and embracing…

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What Laws Do Sex Workers REALLY Want? ft. Jenna of Maggies

From indoor vs. outdoor work to the Nordic model’s pitfalls, we deep dive into the real sex worker experience. Discover why sex work is a queer issue and how allyship can transform lives. We explore what sex workers truly need from the law and society. Tune in for an enlightening, candid, and a bit cheeky conversation that shatters myths and celebrates sex worker resilience. Download FEELD:…

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Are You Straight Or Is It Compulsory Heterosexuality? ft. Tyra Blizzard

Are we seeking male validation or is it all just comp-het? Unpack compulsory heterosexuality with Tyra Blizzard, the dynamic author and pro basketball player. We’ll explore queering relationships, smashing societal expectations, and Tyra’s own journey beyond the binary. Tune in and start deprogramming your comphet through an insightful talk into the heart of queer love and identity. Download…

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Is It Too Late To Come Out? ft. Ralph & Eva Bloom

Coming out later in life can be both nerve-wracking and exhilarating. We dive into this journey with our fabulous guests, queer sex educator Eva Bloom and Toronto’s own sapphic pop diva, Ralph! From battling imposter syndrome to navigating intense first loves, we'll cover it all. Whether you're a "late bloomer" or simply queer-curious, this episode is packed with insights and a sprinkle of…

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Can Men get Periods?! ft. Elgin And The Period Purse

We're diving headfirst into the question: Are periods solely a “women's issue”? Join the conversation as we explore the often overlooked world of trans menstruation. From unraveling the mysterious history of menstruation to empowering you with ways to degender your menstrual vocabulary, we're covering it all. Plus, we'll be sharing personal insights into the trans menstruation experience and…

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