Hi, I'm Nontobeko Shabangu. I spend most of my time thinking, reading and writing. I believe in Ubuntu, not the Linux software but the philosophy that ...
I often wrestle with big questions that don’t have singular answers. The questions I’ve been asking myself lately are “What’s the point of life?” and “Why are we born just to die?” I believe that we all have individual assignments on Earth but I’ve come to the conclusion that collectively our duty is to love. The dictionary definition of love is: an intense feeling of deep affection. The…
⁃Patriarchy stands in the way of love ⁃Love is the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth ⁃Love is as love does. Love is an act of will. We don’t have to love. We choose to love. ⁃We can’t claim to love if we are hurtful and abusive. ⁃Love and abuse cannot coexist. ⁃Too many of us cling to a notion of love that either makes abuse acceptable…
Social media has negatively impacted the depth of our relationships. We want to be connected and known by as many people as possible. Without taking the time to truly know and be known by them. Intimacy requires authenticity. To love someone deeply, you must know them. Their flaws, struggles and joys. There’s no intimacy without vulnerability. One of the requirements for a deep relationship is…
There’s only one cause I truly advocate for in my life and that is the necessity of community. My friends have enabled much of my growth in the past few years simply by being themselves and embracing who I am. We ask each other uncomfortable questions but also provide the safe space to answer honestly. The problem with family is that they hold on to an unrealistic version of you. Most parents…