# the Connected Self My personal Substack Page: Feed: --- ## [What Anti-Oppressive Practice Means in My Therapy Room](https://pavankherapattar.substack.com/p/what-anti-oppressive-practice-means) _2026-08-18 · Pavan Khera-Pattar_ What does anti-oppressive therapy actually mean? ## [Wintering as a Therapist: Five Things That Support Me](https://pavankherapattar.substack.com/p/wintering-as-a-therapist-five-things) _2026-02-11 · Pavan Khera-Pattar_ As I’m still navigating winter, her in the UK, I thought it might be nice to reflect on five things that support me during this season. ## [Six Gentle Ways to Support Yourself When You Feel Overwhelmed and Need to Reset](https://pavankherapattar.substack.com/p/six-gentle-ways-to-support-yourself) _2026-01-27 · Pavan Khera-Pattar_ This weekend I noticed myself feeling overwhelmed, a mixture of supporting two friends going through a fall out, filing my taxes, the food shop amounting to four days of meals but costing me what felt like it should be two weeks worth of food, juggling playdates, kid’s activities and listening to the news, with reporting on ICE to Palestine landing heavy in my body. ## [“What Does Success Look Like for Me?” is One of the Most Common Questions People Ask When Rethinking Their Lives](https://pavankherapattar.substack.com/p/what-does-success-look-like-for-me) _2025-09-11 · Pavan Khera-Pattar_ It makes sense – success can feel abstract, overwhelming, and sometimes intimidating, is it related to finances, or the freedom we have in our lives, or does it mean something else completely….. ## [My 5 Favourite Tools for Counselling](https://pavankherapattar.substack.com/p/my-5-favourite-tools-for-counselling) _2025-06-23 · Pavan Khera-Pattar_ Over the years, I’ve spent hundreds of hours, learning new therapy techniques, one of my values is learning and growth. ## [The small habits that quietly break our self-esteem](https://pavankherapattar.substack.com/p/the-small-habits-that-quietly-break) _2025-06-11 · Pavan Khera-Pattar_ l Self-esteem isn’t built in a day, there won’t be a single moment of triumph or failure. ## [You’re Not Broken: Understanding the Truth About Social Anxiety](https://pavankherapattar.substack.com/p/youre-not-broken-understanding-the) _2025-05-27 · Pavan Khera-Pattar_ Walking into a room filled with strangers, there’s a moment where it feels like I’m under the spotlight, my body wants to recede and hide in a corner. ## [How Early Life Shapes Our Present](https://pavankherapattar.substack.com/p/how-early-life-shapes-our-present) _2025-05-02 · Pavan Khera-Pattar_ I was recently at a conference, where I got talking to a fellow small business owner, I noticed her straight away. ## [When Silence Becomes the Enemy: On the Fracture of Friendship](https://pavankherapattar.substack.com/p/when-silence-becomes-the-enemy-on) _2025-04-23 · Pavan Khera-Pattar_ Friendships are among the most significant relationships we build in our lives. ## [A Friend Gave You $30 (Sponsored)](https://crawlproof.com/a/BKYm6IySvfr6) _2025-04-23 · **Sponsored**_ Sign up, deposit $5 within 30 days, and start investing with expert guidance. ## [Overcoming Self-Doubt and Limiting Beliefs: A Journey of Self-Reflection](https://pavankherapattar.substack.com/p/overcoming-self-doubt-and-limiting) _2025-03-26 · Pavan Khera-Pattar_ Self-doubt is not truth. It is a story we have learned to tell ourselves. And stories can be rewritten.