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What nobody tells you when you’re 18, or 28, or hell, even 48 is that the decision you’re agonizing over right now probably isn’t as permanent as it feels.

There’s a spectrum to decision making. The low-cost end is where we make tiny, negligible decisions like whether or not to eat Brussels sprouts or what color underwear to wear today. The high cost one is where we decide the permanent stuff: having kids, getting a face tattoo, amputating a limb.

Most of what we lose sleep over sits firmly in Brussels sprouts territory: completely reversible, wildly redeemable, and almost always completely inconsequential.

This episode is Lesson Three from Benchmarks Are Bullshit, and it’s the one that keeps coming back because it’s the one that was needed most. If you’ve ever felt locked into a version of yourself that no longer fits right, this one’s for you!

Healing Girl Summer continues with Lesson Three from Benchmarks Are Bullshit: you will change your mind. But that’s not a flaw, it’s how growth actually works.

We break down why we treat reversible decisions like permanent ones, and how the story you’ve been telling about yourself doesn’t have to be the only story.

From Vera Wang not designing her first dress until nearly 40, to Grandma Moses picking up a paintbrush at 78, to living three completely different lives in under a decade, the evidence is everywhere. Skills travel. Identity isn’t fixed. And almost every decision you will ever make sits way closer to the Brussels sprouts end of the spectrum than the face tattoo one.

Key takeaways:

Decisions are not life sentences, but being inflexible is
The spectrum framework: Brussels sprouts vs. face tattoos
Don’t let your job become your identity
Your skills travel with you across every pivot
You have the power to change your story, no permission necessary

Decisions are NOT Life Sentences

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