You know it. The quiet shame of not accomplishing the same milestones as your peers. Of feeling left behind. Of not being enough.
What if I told you all of that was bullshit built by capitalism to keep you feeling small, meek, and buying more shit for the short-term dopamine hit relief?
They get richer, while you’re left with more stuff and the shame you can’t quite shake off.
It’s rigged. The only way to recognize it, is to open your eyes, and STOP playing by their rules.
Healing Girl Summer stretches into July with the eponymous lesson from Benchmarks are Bullshit.
As a species we love to measure and rank things. Benchmarks are everywhere, and sometimes even useful. Until they show up uninvited at our family gatherings, in our LinkedIn feeds, in hustle culture, or in the quiet voice that whispers, “you should have more by now.”
That’s not helpful! And who benefits from these beliefs? Certainly not us, especially when they make us feel lesser than.
Let’s break down why those metrics were never meant for us childfree Latinas, and what to measure instead for designing our vidas más chévere.
Success isn’t measured by hitting milestones on someone else’s timeline
Keeping up with the Joneses is a loser’s game, and capitalist culture thrives on it
Frida Kahlo didn’t live by anyone’s rules, and you don’t have to either
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Get the full show notes at PauletteErato.com. This is episode 98.
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