I don’t know about you, but I grew up in the age of stranger danger. If I didn’t meet someone through a trusted source, then they might kidnap, rape, or kill me. And yet, in single woman world, we using dating apps and websites all the time to intentionally meet complete strangers from the internet … Dating and self-defense with Caleb Giddings Read More »
We all know the standard safety tip offered to women: don’t be afraid to be rude. If we want to refuse a request, if we want to leave a place, if we object to being touched, then we have the right to say no and we don’t have to be nice about it. While there … How to be rude [updated July 2023] Read More »
One of the challenging parts of the MUC – Managing Unknown Contacts – stuff we talked about yesterday is that it can feel really rude. MUC strategies can include brushing by someone with angry-face on and ignoring anything they might have to say, or asking them to stay away from you, or even yelling at … It’s Okay To Be Rude Read More »
We haven’t talked about MUC – Managing Unknown Contacts – in a hot minute, and it’s a good time for a review as we venture into summer vacations. Classically, as originated and taught by Craig Douglas of Shivworks, MUC has some specific elements about creating and using a set of simple responses to the approach … Managing Unknown Contacts – An Introduction Read More »
Last week, I took my Grom out for a ride around some local back roads, went into a turn a bit too fast (about 30mph is my best guess) and hit some gravel or similar road debris. I rode the bike down, landed with it on top of my left leg, and have a super … And then she fell down Read More »
The thing about lethal force, whether or not you intend it to be lethal, is that the consequences can be extremely high if we use it in ways that are not legally permissible. Watching the news and social media are not complete educations about what is and isn’t okay in the eyes of the law, … Why guns can be a bad idea for self-defense Read More »
Step 0: Are you carrying pepper spray? You should be. If a stranger is an actual issue, OC is very likely enough to solve the most common worst-case scenario problems. Step 1: Relax. Are they really following you or are they also just looking for Diet Coke? You can change your path through the store … What to do if you are being followed Read More »
You or somebody you know probably does or has thought about carrying a knife for self-defense. There are many pros and cons to the idea generally, and I’ve talked about them before here at On Her Own. I’d like to focus today on the particular flavor of folding pocket knives. They are an incredibly popular … Folding knives for self-defense [updated February 2023] Read More »
I’m angry today. I’m angry that companies will sacrifice your safety and your life on the altar of sales. Unsafe carry methods, like gimmicky self-defense products, are often marketed as clearly being effective because so many people have bought into them. The problem is that popularity won’t save you when your tools are the very … Popularity sells, but at what cost? Read More »
Hello, lovely, appreciated, and valued followers of OHO. I have some brief real talk and admin updates for you today. Some of you may have noticed that the pace of content here has slowed down a bit recently. There are several reasons. OHO began, somewhat coincidentally, in the early days of COVID with its reduced … Site news and updates Read More »