Formerly: The Marriage Podcast for Smart People. Co-hosted by Caleb and Verlynda Simonyi-Gindele. We are married to each other and are both counselors who have worked extensively with couples and individuals. We own Therapevo Counselling Inc., a counselling agency that delivers hope and healing to clients across North America and beyond via secure Zoom video call.
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For the betrayed partner who saw exactly what kind of porn their husband was watching, and hasn't felt at home in their own body since. Caleb and Verlynda explain why his porn type reflects conditioning rather than a verdict on you, what to do with the impossible comparison, and how to heal the body-image wound of betrayal trauma without carrying his recovery.…
If you know why you watch porn but your needs still feel unmet, this episode is the "now what." Caleb and Verlynda walk through how to actually meet the connection, comfort, and validation needs porn was faking, with a concrete roadmap for rebuilding real relationships over time. For the person who's tired of white-knuckling recovery and wants the long game that lasts.…
If your porn tastes have intensified over time, even into content that disturbs you, this episode explains the mechanism behind the drift: tolerance, novelty, and your arousal template. Certified sex addiction therapist Caleb Simonyi-Gindele unpacks why the gap between what you watch and what you'd want in real life is so common, why the shame compounds, and how the drift can be reversed at the…
If trauma images interrupt intimacy since the betrayal, this episode is for you. Verlynda explains why the freeze, lost arousal, and dissociation are your body's protection, and walks through five somatic pacing tools for staying present on your own timeline, plus a direct word for the partner who betrayed. Support from a betrayal trauma specialist:…
If one slip keeps turning into a three-day binge, the problem may not be your willpower. It may be your day counter. This episode is for anyone in porn addiction recovery who has stared at the "reset to Day 0" button: we cover why a relapse cannot erase your brain's progress, the researched reason broken streaks trigger binges, and the three moves that turn a relapse into fuel for more resilient…
You have waited one year, or three, or seven, and the person who broke your trust still isn't really doing the recovery work. This episode is a discernment framework for the betrayed partner: how to tell real recovery from performed recovery on a calendar, what the research says about kids and high-conflict homes, and how to build the power to choose when finances keep you stuck. Get support at…
If trying not to think about porn has only made the urges louder, this episode is for you. Caleb, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, explains why willpower fails by design, what actually happens in your brain during the 27 minutes an average urge lasts, and the four-move urge surfing skill that works instead. By the end you'll know exactly what to do the next time a wave hits.…
If your fights technically end but the distance lingers for hours or days, this episode is for you. Caleb and Verlynda unpack why repair, not the absence of conflict, is what actually keeps a marriage close, how to calm a flooded nervous system before you talk, and what a real apology sounds like versus the hollow "you're right, I'm sorry." Start here:…
If you just found out about an affair and everyone is asking you whether you'll stay or go, this episode is the permission you may not know you need. Caleb and Verlynda explain why a decision made in the first raw weeks is unreliable, what a structured pause actually looks like, and the full range of options that live between staying exactly as you were and ending it today. This is not a push to…
If you have ever wondered why one specific kind of porn pulls you in when you scroll past everything else, this episode is for you. Caleb and Verlynda unpack the idea of your arousal template, why porn so often becomes a way to medicate an old wound rather than a simple matter of sex drive, and why understanding the why does more than white-knuckling ever will. There is also a direct,…
