I've Decided to Lower my Standards
Why I'm Rejecting the Relentless Pursuit of Becoming Less Shit (And Why You Might Want to as Well.)
Moss & Matchsticks
For anyone who’s ever felt too complex, too much, or just bloody knackered. I write sharp, funny essays on burnout, love & life. Matchsticks for the brittleness of burnout, moss for the softness that saves us from going feral.
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Congratulations. Apparently It's Your Fault You're Ill.
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There are no low-maintenance people in relationships, just people who have learned to hide their needs
Apparently I’m Supposed to Forgive Everyone (I Had a Think. Nope.)
What 23 years of enforced looking inwards taught me about forgiveness, anger and clarity and why I'm not a bitter bastard.
What Four Year Old Boys in My Classroom Taught Me About the Manosphere
This Didn’t Start with Andrew Tate. It Started Much Earlier.
Reading Christina Applegate's Memoir as a Disabled Woman
Thoughts on loving her and why I can't stay quiet about her book
The Peace of Being Seen
Why Writing Anonymously is Making Me More Visible
ICE, ICE, Baby?
What immigration raids reveal about power, and the dynamics of morality
This Post Is Brought to You by Sleep Deprivation and 1,005 Legends
No idea what's happening but it seems to be going well
A Few Things I Know About Christmas Pressure And Being Knackered
Including (but not limited to): why it’s perfectly reasonable to cling to a tea bag and your last nerve instead of baubles (not a euphemism), and what to remember instead