It’s Not Too Late to Live Happily Ever After

I distinctly remember growing up believing in a certain type of fairytale. The kind in which people always lived happily ever after. Where they loved deeply, did the right thing, and were rewarded generously for doing so.

This moral posturing served me well for many years. It kept me safe from the fear of being hurt, and gave me a deep level of empathy for those who needed help and might be ostracized by others. I found myself drawn to them like a moth to a flame, and upon meeting would offer my unyielding support, pouring all of my love into their salty open wounds.

My first instinct was to assist. To aid. To love without limits.

I forgave and forgot without a second thought. I took back every partner, friend, or family member who ever did me wrong - until they eventually walked away from the public humiliation ritual that had become of the relationship.

This shrewd belief in the goodness of people and their worthiness of unlimited help (often at my detriment) was something I wore as a badge of honour for a time, until I finally experienced a cycle that would bring me to my knees.

In the span of six months, I got divorced, left my home, my job, my longest friendship, my toxic relationship with my father, and experienced a hit-and-run car accident that left me physically immobile.

I was left with essentially nothing but a whole lot of anger, resentment, and vitriol that had been repressed for years without an outlet.

Where were those same individuals to step in to support me? And even more-so I asked - Why was the universe punishing me for being good?

I was acting in good faith, I thought. I was so selfless, so giving, so generous..

But after a few months in this very isolated pity party I finally came to an important conclusion.

I realized that my generosity, while well-intentioned, came from a wounded place. The lack of boundaries came from an even deeper hurt.

I was so terrified to be seen without performing or providing that I had unknowingly recreated the same relationship pattern for decades, until Spirit finally had enough.

This divine intervention saved my life.

It helped me recognize that I had both cogency and agency in what felt nourishing to me. What felt supportive. What energized me versus what depleted me.

Spirit cleared the board to reset my vision, and suddenly in this moment, it became crystal clear.

Now, I choose the relationships in my life consciously and with intention. I honour my capacity without sacrificing myself at the altar of being needed. I no longer confuse self-abandonment with love, or overextension with generosity.

And in doing so, I discovered something unexpected:

Alignment is less about becoming someone new and more about returning to who you were before you learned that love had to be earned.

Perhaps this is the real fairytale.

Not that goodness guarantees immunity from grief, disappointment, or loss.

Not that if we love hard enough, give enough, forgive enough, or endure enough, life will eventually hand us the rewards we’ve earned.

Because a happily ever after is available to us when we choose ourselves with the same devotion we have so freely extended to everyone else.

And in this vein, perhaps the fairytale wasn’t wrong after all.

It was simply incomplete.

We must not force ourselves to bloom in environments that ask us to shrink.

We must recognize that being a good person does not require us to betray our own needs.

We must know that what is meant for us will not ask us to become smaller in order to receive it.

This week’s planetary alignment feels like an invitation into exactly this.

An invitation to pay attention to where life is naturally expanding. To notice what feels supportive rather than performative, energizing rather than exhausting. To trust the relationships, opportunities, and desires that allow us to become more fully ourselves instead of fracturing into smaller pieces to sustain them.

Growth is not always a reward for effort.

Sometimes it is simply the inevitable consequence of being planted in the right soil.

The seed of a tree is adept at sprouting roots deep into the earth, but it cannot survive and grow in the depths of the ocean.

The seed is not flawed because it cannot thrive there.

It is simply trying to survive in a place it was never designed to call home.

And perhaps that is what alignment really is.

This week’s planetary alignment, peaking on June 18th, is magical not because it promises overnight transformation, but because it mirrors the quiet shifts already taking place within us.

It mirrors back to us where we’ve taken great strides to choose ourselves unapologetically - as though the sky itself is saluting us in a parade held in our honour.

Mercury, Venus, and Jupiter gather together in the sky, each illuminating a different part of the journey back to ourselves.

Mercury governs our thoughts, communication, perception, and the stories we tell ourselves. It asks us to reconsider the narratives we’ve been living by. In this case, we might review the belief that love has to be earned, that struggle is proof of virtue, or that being needed is the same thing as being valued.

What beliefs are you ready to outgrow?

Venus turns our attention to the heart. She governs our relationships, self-worth, values, pleasure, and our capacity to receive. She reminds us that reciprocity is the key to true intimacy and lasting partnerships.

Where are you being invited to choose reciprocity over performance? Pleasure over depletion? Self-worth over self-sacrifice?

And Jupiter, the great expander, asks us to trust where life is naturally opening.

Jupiter governs growth, abundance, opportunity, wisdom, hope, and possibility. Jupiter reminds us that expansion doesn’t always arrive through relentless striving. Sometimes it appears because we have finally planted ourselves in soil capable of sustaining us.

As these three planets align, you may notice conversations bringing unexpected clarity. Relationships becoming more reciprocal. New opportunities emerging. Financial growth gaining momentum. Decisions becoming easier. Joy returning in places that once felt heavy.

You may find yourself releasing old identities and stepping into a version of yourself that no longer mistakes suffering for love, over-giving for generosity, or exhaustion for purpose.

Perhaps this is what is finally coming together for you:

A new story.

More nourishing relationships.

A greater willingness to receive.

The courage to trust ease where you once sought out struggle.

The expansion that becomes possible when you stop fighting your own nature and truest essence.

Maybe the magic isn’t that everything suddenly changes.

Maybe the magic is realizing that, despite all the twists and turns, you were never truly abandoned by the Universe.

Spirit has been gently guiding you back to yourself.

Maybe everything fell apart so something better could come together.

And maybe, just maybe, everything has been working out for you all along.

Before you move on, I’d love to hear from you.

Which part of your life feels like it’s finally coming together?

Is it a relationship? Your sense of self? Your career? Your capacity to receive? The story you’ve been telling yourself about what you’re worthy of?

Like and comment below to send a strong message to the Universe that you’re ready for alignment in love, career, and beyond.

And if this week’s planetary alignment has reminded you that growth doesn’t have to come through struggle, I’ve created a manifestation ritual and guided audio meditation for paid subscribers to help you work with this energy intentionally.

Together, we’ll release the outdated narratives you’re ready to outgrow, reconnect with the version of you that no longer mistakes sacrifice for love, and call in the relationships, opportunities, abundance, and ease that are already seeking you.

Because insight is powerful.

But embodiment is what changes your life.

You can access this week’s Manifestation ritual and accompanying audio meditation below.