Microaggressions
I complimented a black woman on her hair the other day, and my motivations were weird. I keep thinking about it, and keep being like it s a compliment, she was probably happy, I should just forget about it but I Continue reading
Love and Void
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Seeing Yourself as Human When You Have Privilege
I just read this article by Jezebel Delilah X about growing up in an affluent, black family. She talks about how her teachers treated her differently in school, and encouraged her classmates to be more like her. That sort of dynamic Continue reading
My Most Valued Posession
I was on the train, and a young black woman was solving some math problems on the seat across from me. She dressed femininely, with a purple skirt, and little white flat shoes, and this big gold ring that kept Continue reading
Issues I Have With White People Talking about Racism
I am a white person who talks about racism. But, I have issues with *other* white people talking about racism. Not all other white people, just some of them. There are two major issues a lot of white people have Continue reading
Sex and Not Sex
It s ok not to have sex. It s ok not to have sex even if you get turned on, and it s ok not to get turned on at all. It s ok to not be able to find a partner to have Continue reading
Not So Queer Friendly
Yesterday I was hanging out with a bunch of straight people and talking about burning man (I ve never been.) There is apparently some survey afterwards you can opt to take that asks people how many new sex partners they have Continue reading
Suicide
I just found out a girl who lived in my dorm in school committed suicide. I didn t know her very well, but honestly, what I did know I didn t like very much. One of my few memories of her was from Continue reading
Yes Means Yes Bill
A new law in California is expected to pass that would require affirmative consent on college campuses receiving public funds see here. Notably, it doesn t criminalize sex without affirmative consent, it simply requires disciplinary action at the academic level (which could Continue reading
Bisexual Erasure – As Explained by Two Lesbians
So, I was watching this video, and I got to wondering, why couldn t the main-video-woman get a bisexual woman to help explain bi erasure? I mean, we re talking about the *erasure* of bisexual people, and somehow the best way to Continue reading
Bisexual and Dating Same Sex
I gotta own something. Recently, I ve been feeling well weird towards bisexuals who are in opposite sex relationships. And, you know, I get it. I was in nearly exclusively opposite sex relationships for, like, 10 years. People questioned my Continue reading