Lit AF podcast is your resource for healing and transforming attachment styles. Sarah Cohan is a relationship and communication coach. She helps folx end old relationship patterns like people-pleasing and codependency in order to show up confidently in secure relationships. It is possible to change your attachment style. Tune in to start healing today. Website: [Sarahcohan.com](https://www.sarahcohan.com/) Instagram: [@itsmesarahcohan](https://www.instagram.com/itsmesarahcohan/) Email:…
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If you’re in a long-term relationship or marriage, you likely have a repetitive argument that you keep coming back to. Usually there’s a word, phrase, or tone that will set one of you off, and that reaction escalates into conflict. It can feel like this fight never gets resolved. I share a recent one that I had with my husband and then I share the steps to resolve this conflict so it doesn’t keep…
Do you spend a lot of time doubting your relationship? Do you immediately go to look on Zillow after having conflict with your partner? If you tend to fantasize about hitting the easy button on your relationship, this episode is for you. I share why the anxious preoccupied, fearful avoidant, and especially the dismissive avoidant doubt their relationships. Then I share the easy process to drop the…
If you experience a push-pull dynamic in your relationship, this episode is for you. I explain the common anxious avoidant relationship pattern. I talk about the anxious preoccupied and dismissive avoidant attachment types and why they have a natural push-pull tendency. I also explain why these two insecure attachment types tend to get into a relationship with each other. Finally, I end the…
Are you listening to defend yourself with your partner instead of listening to connect? In this episode, I break down why you feel the need to defend yourself when your partner is sharing. I explain which attachment styles tend to do this. And then I share how you can work on listening to connect with your partner. When you drop this habit and start helping your partner feel seen and heard it…
Is your partner shutting down when you’re offering solutions to them? On this week’s podcast episode, I explain why offering solutions to your partner who is just trying to share with you isn’t working. They feel like you’re telling them what to do. You don’t feel like your help is being appreciated. I share how you can change it from a conversation that leads to disconnection to a conversation…
Do you get caught up in your partner’s emotions when they are angry or disregulated? Do you feel the need to match their emotion? When we react to our partner’s emotions, it actually just means we have two disregulated people instead of one. I talk about why we do this and simple ways to not get swept up in them. Tune in to start having more productive conflict with your partner. Discover your…
If you have an insecure attachment style, you likely don’t set boundaries or set them from a reactionary place. In this episode, I break down how the different attachment styles approach or avoid setting boundaries. Then I talk about how a securely attached person sets boundaries. Tune in to hear why secure people use them to sustain their relationships and my simple process to setting boundaries…
On today’s episode, I talk about the important process of forgiveness after betrayal. Betrayal can feel really painful, and when we experience it we often tell ourselves really painful stories like I am not enough or I am not worthy. This episode covers how to get started on the path to forgiveness I share the surprising first step that doesn’t actually even include forgiveness. But it will help…
If you grew up with an insecure attachment style you likely have a story about what it means to have a need. The dismissive avoidant believes they are a burden for having needs. The anxious preoccupied believes their needs will get in the way of having a close relationship. What ends up happening is nobody gets their needs met. In this episode, I share how to start seeing your needs as neutral and…
In this episode I slow down a real life example of a coaching session I had this week with a couple working on their healthy communication. I share how you can take a small tiny moment with your partner that would usually escalate conflict and instead reduce the conflict between you so you can actually have a conversation. When we stop reacting to our own emotions that’s when we can treat our…
Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043 Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/ If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt…
If you’re getting caught hashing over the details and disagreeing with your partner’s version of the story you are stuck in relationship math and it’s hurting your relationship. When we nitpick the details our partner has shared we’re losing out on the big picture, how they’re feeling. I share the most important thing to work on to get out of relationship math so you can start connecting with your…
