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I didn’t know what breathwork was when I first came to it.

Honestly, I’m not sure anyone really does at the beginning. There’s just... something. A pull. Not a logical one, not the kind you can explain to your mum or justify to your partner when you’re booking yet another thing that costs money and takes time.

It’s more like your body recognising something it knows will change the game before your mind catches up.

This happens a lot with people who are new to Breathwork Mastery (RBM).

They feel drawn to it without quite understanding why. They sign up for a session or a retreat and can’t quite articulate what made them do it. There’s just this click, this YES somewhere deep in the system that says “this, I need this.”

And here’s the beautiful thing about RBM that I’ve come to understand through my training and practice, no matter what intentions we set, our body and breath are always doing the work for us. Always clearing and creating what we truly desire, even when, especially when, we have absolutely no idea what that is.

The RBM materials talk about this in terms of the psyche, or what they call the subliminal self. It’s not the conscious mind directing the session. It’s something deeper, something that knows exactly where you need to go and what you’re ready to integrate.

The workbooks describe it as… “the factor or regulating mechanism that oversees Rebirthing Breathwork Mastery sessions. It allows people go where they need to go in the session, and disallows any experience which they are not ready for.”

Think about that for a second.

Not the facilitator. Not the music. Not even your conscious intention, though that matters too. There’s a part of you that already knows what needs to shift, what’s ready to surface, what can be released right now versus what needs to wait for another session or another year.

This is why sessions can look so different from each other, even when you’re setting similar intentions.

As a practitioner (in final stages of training), I’ve learned to have deep trust that whatever is unfolding is always moving the breather, step by step, closer to their intentions in some way. Even when, from the outside, it looks like nothing is happening. Even when the breather themselves feels stuck or frustrated or like they’re doing it wrong.

Often we can trace back how what arose within the session is related to the intention, though it’s not needed. The body knows. The breath knows. The psyche knows.

This happened for me in my first sessions in a way I couldn’t have predicted.

Can you believe it took me four breathwork sessions before I let myself go pee in the middle of the session?

FOUR.

I was lying there, following the guided instructions in my first session, trying to get it right. Laying perfectly still on my back, focusing on the long, slower, fuller than normal breaths, witnessing what was coming up as the music floated between different tracks. Arms open, body relaxed, doing exactly what I thought I was supposed to do.

Never moving. Never making sound. Never raising my hand to signal the facilitator.

It was like I was so stuck in this pattern of not wanting to get it wrong. School trauma, I realised later. All those years of sitting still at a desk, of being a good student, of following instructions perfectly, of never disrupting the class. Don’t ask to go to the bathroom during the lesson. Don’t draw attention to yourself. Get it right.

And so much so that I’d get to this point in the session where I was BUSTING to go pee. Like, genuinely uncomfortable. Bladder screaming. Body sending very clear signals that it needed something.

But still I just stayed there.

The discomfort getting more and more intense. The fear arising. Because if I go, I won’t be able to drop back in, I won’t be able to come back into this state. Birth pattern, right there. The fear of transition, of moving from one state to another, of losing something in the passage.

And also this other fear, of wasting time or missing out on something important if I left for even two minutes. Friendship trauma. The terror of being left out, of something happening while you’re not there, of not being included in the experience everyone else is having.

All of this, playing out in my body while I tried to “do breathwork correctly.”

And do you know what the beautiful thing is?

This was ALL perfect. Exactly what I needed to process in order to release and rewire what was in the way of the intentions I had set in those sessions!!!

The RBM theory talks about how… “thoughts are embedded in the cells with the formative imprinted feeling.”

These patterns, these survival mechanisms, they’re held in the body as cellular memory.

The workbooks explain it as… “an electromagnetic energy charge in the body where it is held as cellular memory. It is this cellular memory and not our mental memory which triggers us to subconsciously react or overreact when something similar happens again in our life.”

So there I was, breath after breath, session after session, with my bladder full and my body giving me very clear information about what it needed.

And I was overriding it.

Pushing through.

It wasn’t until the end of my fourth, or maybe fifth session, that I felt the sensation of needing to pee and something in me just said “no more, I have GOT TO GOOO!”

I didn’t “notify” anyone. I just got up and walked to the bathroom.

And I’m not kidding you when I say it felt like the GREATEST pee of my life.

OH MY GOD—THE RELIEF!!!

Not just physical relief, though that was immense.

But this deeper relief, this sense of “oh, I can meet my own needs. I can ‘interrupt the process.’ I can take care of myself and come back and it will be okay.”

It was an anchoring point. A new reference.

The body never lies, the workbooks say… “The body takes the impressions like a programme in a computer. Body sensations, pain, aches, disease states, mild and chronic, are imprints locked into the cellular memory, which can ultimately be accessed by conscious breath.”

And that’s what was happening. My body was showing me, breath by breath, session by session, exactly what needed to shift. The psyche, my subliminal self, was directing me to the exact edge I was ready to meet. Not in the first session, I wasn’t ready then. But by the fourth, fifth session, enough had cleared, enough had softened, that I could finally let myself do the simplest thing in the world.

Get up and pee.

This is what’s possible with Breathwork Mastery (RBM).

This step by step unraveling of the patterns that keep us locked in old survival mechanisms.

This gentle, persistent work of the psyche taking us exactly where we need to go, at exactly the pace we can integrate.

This relief of finally, finally being able to meet our own needs without the fear that we’ll lose connection, lose love, lose acceptance.

“The emphasis for each session is on taking a step that is integrated, with a sense of completion for that day, by the end of the session.”
— Alakh Analda

Not fixing everything at once. Not forcing breakthroughs. Just taking the next available step. Releasing what’s ready. Integrating what can be integrated. Trusting that the body and breath are doing the work, whether we understand it consciously or not.

And now, after three years of personal practice and over two years of professional training, I’m bringing my first online breathwork experience to you.

Session One: 8am to 11am AWST (1 spot left)

Session Two: 2pm to 5pm AWST (3 spots left)

Unsure of the timezone conversion? I’ve done some for you here.

Unsure of what you need for a session? See my other post here.

Single session is $150 AUD, or both sessions for $225 AUD.

Maybe you’ll lie there the whole time and nothing will seem to happen. Maybe you’ll have a profound release. Maybe you’ll fall asleep. Maybe you’ll spend the entire session noticing how uncomfortable your body is and that will be perfect, that will be exactly what your psyche needs you to witness right now.

Whatever arises, I’ll be right there with you. To trust your process. To remind you that nothing is ever wrong, even when it feels stuck or strange or not what you expected.

Your body knows. Your breath knows. Your psyche knows.

And I’m here to support that unfolding, whatever it looks like.

Haven x

Questions? Drop a comment below or reach out to me at contact@iamhavenhall.com

It took me four breathwork sessions before I let myself pee.

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