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I Reactivated My Old Phone For SMS And Calls

Announcement: I won't be using the messengers, like WhatsApp, Telegram, and Signal, on a daily basis anymore. I will be available for urgent matters through SMS and direct phone calls. All the messengers are on a separate device that I will check maybe once a day. Explanation: During my recent meditation retreat, it became so obvious to me how this device is changing my level of awareness, my…

What happens when I meditate?

I have been meditating daily for the past 7 years. This is what I have found. It's different every single time I do it. Ranging from "most ecstatic feeling that I never want to leave" to "when is this finally over?" It seems so simple that one can easily overlook its profoundness. How does it work? Simply speaking, I put my attention on my breath. Or more specifically, speaking to the sensation of…

Why do I feel stuck?

“𝘊𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦.” But why does it sometimes feel like nothing is changing at all? Yes, that is happening to me. My mind keeps on telling me that my project feels stuck, or a relationship seems frozen. My mind convinces me nothing is ever-changing. It feels like I’m trapped in a loop, always going back to the same place over and over. 𝙃𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙞𝙨…

Question your Assumptions

I cannot answer the question where my thoughts come from.Yet, I believe so many things that come as thoughts with no further proof. I need to work hard to earn money. Aliens don't exist. I am not a good writer. AI is going to make my job obsolete. I will only be happy when... (I don't believe all of them. ;)) Also, what I noticed is that I am thinking so many similar thoughts.

Why You Feel Unproductive When You Try to Relax

Recently, a few clients reached out to me, telling me they need to distance themselves from work.They want to relax.They want to calm down after work.Their mind cannot stop. But at the same time, they cannot let go of the pressure.They cannot let go of the stress. Because, as they say, that is what keeps them active.That is what keeps them doing their job.That is what gives them motivation. So…

How to “fix” an overactive mind

(Deutsche Version unten👇🏻) Don’t. Don’t try to fix your overactive mind or searching for a remedy. Recently, I had a lot of clients asking how they can stop overthinking. Let go of the thought or get rid of them. But quite often, that’s the very reason you are overthinking. Your mind is trying to fix things in the past or in the future. Most people are replaying moments of the past or…