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I’m having trouble thinking of other music videos—whether animated or not—that have really stuck with me or that I periodically rewatch. I guess it’s really just this three. a-ha - Take On Me (1985) One day about a year ago, my best friend’s teen son was making fun of this song. SMH. I put the music video on the big-screen TV, explaining that, to fully appreciate the song, you really need to see…
Yesterday I was over it. I think I’m gonna go back into hibernation for 5, 7, maybe 35ish years , I thought to myself, and the rest of you can tell me how it all shook out in the end . That’s how afraid of my own shadow I am: I’m always about to crawl back into a hole. I’d cognitively hibernated for 8+ years but it was clearly not long enough. You will not be missed , someone wrote—the last…
on generational trauma, the corporate surveillance state, and what we want to leave to our kids. p.s. it’s long A commercial for Meta was playing on TV. I looked up from our jigsaw puzzle. “ Wow ,” I said. “What is it?” my best friend asked. “This commercial for Meta,” I said. “It’s really pulling out all the stops. Don’t you remember how much you loved using Facebook back in the day? Didn’t you…
This blog post took a week to write. It’s not the longest thing ever, but it could be shorter. After overthinking my necklace possibilities, I’d put on my Strength Tarot card pendant for going-out. “La Force,” the small brass rectangle reads. The RWS Tarot traditionally depicts Strength as a white woman in white robes who is using both her hands to hold open the maw of a lion. It’s about the…
Last night a friend was telling me about her recent date with a younger guy. For whatever reason, the date didn’t ‘hit’. They hadn’t clicked. “He works in financial tech,” she told me—a late addition to her anecdote. “ Fintech ! Ugh! Let him go,” I laughed. Catch and release! “It’s pretty evil stuff,” I added. She looked startled. “He told me all the information they use is publicly available—” my…
The teen had taken over the TV. He was watching first-person action-cam footage of dirt bike jumps. “Wow, this really makes me want to play a video game about racing dirt bikes,” I teased him. Then I went silent. I frowned. Later, while throwing Aerobies with the tyke outside, I’d gone silent again. I guess she’d asked me a question, but I didn’t hear her. “Sorry,” I said to her, “I was just…
I recently saw, on social media, the most horrifying study , revealed earlier this year. The research paper claimed that, if a human adult is struggling, a dog or baby will run toward the human wanting to know how to help, wanting to intervene, but a cat will sit back and watch —only interrupting if the cat sees “what’s in it for them.” That is to say, cats are moved to action if they see an…
I don’t talk a lot about my adoptive dad, but I actively miss him every day. He felt extremely left out of the weird relationship my adoptive mom and I had, which baffled me as a kid. What he was actually observing was our enmeshment , and I guess he thought he wanted in on that. That’d made me sad. Really, I’d had an incredibly normal and healthy relationship with my adoptive dad—just terse.…
This was going to be an updated/added footnote or postscript to the last post , but now it’s its own post. It’s basically just a full transcript of a conversation. (I got explicit permission to call her by her name, since good ideas should be properly attributed, and I didn’t want to reword her) My friend Rowan Kaiser, who is an actual TV reviewer and critic, finally caught up to me and,…
I’d quote-posted someone using a screenshot—feelin’ sketchy about that, since they obviously wanted to make a point without any ‘engagement’ or reply-threads or dogpiles—but they were making a point about readers’ or fans’ refusal to engage with a story as written , as opposed to the nonexistent version fans had written in their own heads. “I realized I did this with Widow’s Bay,” I posted , “and…
