Surrender the Struggle: Becoming a Peacemaker This Christmas and Hanukkah

Originally published December 12, 2025. Brought home to Substack as part of the It’s Bizzy archive.

Hey Bizzy Fam,

Peace vs. Peacemaker—how are you faring this holiday season? Are you overwhelmed with emotions, too many expectations, and not enough time? Or is your life quieter than ever, leaving you looking back at the chaos with a pang of longing? Both hit hard, and neither feels peaceful. They’re the opposite, y’all—swirling storms that steal your joy.

All I want for Christmas? For things to look the way I envision. The perfect table, the harmonious family laughs, the wrapped gifts under a twinkling tree. But let’s be real: The chances are slimmer than winning that 1-billion-dollar Powerball. With that mindset, how can anything be peaceful? I need to flip the script in my head—from chasing “peace” to becoming a “peacemaker.” It’s not easy, but it’s necessary.

Confusion doesn’t breed peace; it’s the exact opposite—a relentless thief.

What are we to do if we liked things one way and now have to navigate different times and traditions without offending anyone? It’s hard, but as peacemakers, we keep our mouths shut, lean on trusted confidants, and pray. At least that’s what I’m doing this Christmas season. I want my life peaceful and tranquil, back to the basics: a Christmas tree twinkling, carols filling the house, ridiculous movies playing every evening, and January peeking around the corner like a promise.

In all seriousness, finding peace is of the utmost importance. Can you imagine being in the times when Jesus was born? Mary and Joseph on the run from King Herod, no one offering them a room, ending up in a stable with animals. Soon after Jesus’ birth, they fled to Egypt and stayed years—far from home. Herod ordered all boys under 2 killed! No peace there, fam. Yet, in that chaos, the Prince of Peace arrived.

Today, we all need to stop, take a deep breath, and recognize this season’s importance: Jesus Christ, our Savior, was born. He came to bring peace, love, hope, and joy to the world.

So, here’s my nudge: This weekend, instead of running around spending money, sit and enjoy friends, family, and ease. Turn off the noise—just the tree lights, a menorah glow (Hanukkah starts Sunday!), and quiet. I know families who have started a no-phones-on-Sunday rule, and it has changed everything for them. Relax, enjoy your people, and soak in the peace.

Have a wonderful, magical weekend. Thanks for reading

XOXO Bizzy