The Erotics of Almost Hating Someone
On enemies-to-lovers, queer desire, and the fine line between eroticizing jealousy and letting competition win the relationship.
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Expanding the definition of "polysaturation". Or do we need another word?
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Is "brutal polyamory" the answer?
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On sexless slut eras and sex as validation.
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Response to an inquiry from a follower.
Cheaters As People Pleasers
On control, complicity, and the problematic violence we romanticize when relationships fall apart.
The Line Between Jealousy and Protection
And how to hold both at once.
Bad Listeners Are Bad in Bed
How curiosity, attunement, consent, safety, and sexual pleasure are inextricably linked.
My Partner's Kinky Partner Feels Unsafe
Responses to questions submitted in comments, DMs, and here on Substack.
Intentionality vs Passive Avoidance
The subtle art of disclosure in nonmonogamous relationship.