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Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
I am a Chid & Adolescent Psychotherapist. The podcast are educational and orientated towards parents. We cover a wide range of sometimes, tricky subjects, in the hope of reassuring parents that no matter how hard things may seem, there are things you can do. Thank you. Kim
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Burn Alone
Send us Fan Mail When a connection feels like a twin flame, the ending doesn’t just hurt, it rewrites your sense of reality. We lean into that raw, poetic space where the spark fades, the mind starts circling for answers, and you’re left trying to tell the fire from the shame. The lines are simple but loaded: survival after love, the way doubt dims what once felt bright, and the quiet terror of…
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A Clinician’s Response To The Great ADHD Myth
Send us Fan Mail A prime-time documentary can spark a needed conversation, but it can also blur the line between good questions and bad conclusions. We watched Channel 4’s “The Great ADHD Myth” with interest because concerns about rushed ADHD diagnosis, uneven assessment quality, and careless prescribing deserve daylight. Then the program reached for something much bigger: the suggestion that ADHD…
When A Child Refuses Contact
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The Three Rs For Healing Harmful Relationships
Send us Fan Mail Some relationships do not break us in one dramatic moment. They wear us down in cycles that are easy to explain away day by day, and only obvious once we step back far enough to see the pattern. I share a clear framework I use to help people make sense of those experiences, and I also give a quick update that the paperback edition of my book, The Life That Belongs to You, is now…
The Life That Belongs To You. The Author speaks.
Send us Fan Mail Harmful relationships rarely announce themselves with a single, obvious moment. Sometimes the damage is quieter: the steady drip of adjustments you make to keep the peace, the slow loss of confidence in your own judgment, the feeling that someone else’s moods and needs have more authority than your reality. I’m Kim Lee, a child and adolescent psychotherapist, and I’m also newly an…
The Life That Belongs To You
Send us Fan Mail Most people don’t wake up one day and choose a life that feels wrong. It happens gradually: small compromises, old family rules, relationship patterns you learned early, and a quiet habit of putting someone else’s needs in the driver’s seat. We talk candidly about that moment of realization, and why we decided to stop the planned finale of the Three Rs series and write the book…
The Reckoning
Send us Fan Mail The most dangerous part of a coercive, abusive, or manipulative relationship isn’t always the obvious cruelty. It’s the slow rewrite of your reality, where hope keeps you working harder, doubting yourself more, and calling it love. We unpack the moment that finally breaks that spell: the reckoning, when the life you thought you were building collides with the life you’re actually…
The first stage. Recognition
Send us Fan Mail You can’t heal what you’re still calling “normal.” Recognition is the moment the fog lifts after an abusive relationship and you finally see the pattern for what it is, not what you hoped it would become. I’m Kim Lee, a child and adolescent psychotherapist, and I’m starting this final stretch of the series on recovery by slowing down and naming that first stage clearly, because it…
Ep 1. Empty Box Syndrome
Send us Fan Mail A controlling relationship rarely announces itself with shouting or bruises. It more often arrives as something flattering, intoxicating, and strangely “meant to be,” the kind of attention that makes you feel chosen. I call this pattern the Empty Box Syndrome: a beautifully wrapped presentation that wins your trust, followed by the moment you realize the substance was never there…
Introduction to Coercive Control
Send us Fan Mail Love does not usually flip into fear overnight. It changes in small, almost invisible steps until you wake up one day and realize your confidence is smaller, your friendships are fewer, and your choices revolve around someone else’s moods. I am Kim Lee, a child and adolescent psychotherapist, and I am continuing my Dangerous Relationships series by turning to coercive control and…
Dangerous Relationships Episode 2. Living Inside The Relationship
Send us Fan Mail Dangerous relationships don’t usually start with danger. They start with attention, excitement, fast closeness, and that intoxicating sense of being truly seen. Then, slowly, the center of gravity shifts and you find yourself carrying more, questioning more, and shrinking more, while the other person keeps taking. We put diagnosis to the side and focus on lived experience: what…
Dangerous Relationships. Understanding Sociopathy
Send us Fan Mail A charming person can sound deeply self-aware, say all the right things, and still leave you stuck in the same painful loop. We pull apart that confusing experience by naming the gap between intellectual insight (knowing the words) and emotional insight (owning the impact), and we connect it to how dangerous relationships quietly erode your confidence in your own reality. We turn…