A show for gentle souls who are ready to shine. INFP Enneagram 9s are reserved yet passionate dreamers and creative thinkers who often put the needs of others first. That doesn’t mean we don’t have our own ambitions and desires. To achieve them, we must become more visible. In this experimental audio diary, host Sarah Mikutel stretches out of her comfort zone to work through what it takes to step out of the shadows and into the spotlight.
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Do you ever feel like people are too blunt – or not direct enough? Do you live by the clock, or are you free with your schedule? Do you like to cut to the chase and get to work, or do you need to warm up first? These are not just individual preferences – they are cultural norms. In this episode, I explore why we are the way we are, and what happens when different cultures collide. Read the article…
There's an unwritten rule in Swedish culture called the Law of Jante: Don't think you're special. Don't stand out. Blend in. It’s the opposite of American individualism – and both sides have a shadow. In this episode, I explore what a Swedish flatmate, living in Italy, and years of coaching have taught me about fitting in versus standing out, and why it matters for anyone working across cultures.…
Turns out there’s not just one way to listen – there are four, at least according to the authors of Adaptive Listening: How to Cultivate Trust and Traction at Work . In this episode, I share when to use each level of listening, plus the question you should always ask yourself before opening your mouth. Read the article . Read Adaptive Listening . *** I’m your host, Sarah Mikutel, a communication…
Love isn't what most people think it is. It’s not a bond between partners or family, according to Dr. Barbara Fredrickson – it’s a micro-moment of positivity that resonates in your body when you connect with someone, even with strangers. And the research is clear: The more of these moments you create, the happier and healthier you’ll be. Read the article . Love 2.0 book *** I’m your host, Sarah…
Have you ever thought: “If they really loved me, they’d just know without me having to say it.” But expecting someone to intuit your needs isn’t romantic – it’s magical thinking. In this episode, I talk about why unspoken expectations lead to disappointment, the shift you need to make for real connection, and why clarity is one of the most generous things you can offer in a relationship. Read the…
I cried in my first knitting class and I didn’t know why – it’s not like I’m emotionally invested in making potholders out of yarn. In this episode, I explore the quiet pressure we put on ourselves without realizing it, and how we can give ourselves more grace. Read the transcript *** I’m your host, Sarah Mikutel, a communication and mindset coach . My work is about helping people like you share…
My guest today, Sunalie, is a warm and gifted journalist – and also a former client of mine. During our time together, she had so many meaningful wins. Hearing about the specific shifts she made will help you strengthen your own confidence and communication skills – including how to feel more at ease when all eyes are on you. Sunalie has been with her partner for over 20 years, but they never got…
Are you procrastinating more than you think you are? In this episode, I’m talking about virtuous procrastination – the act of avoiding discomfort, uncertainty, or purposeful risk by busying yourself with work that appears responsible, generous, and good. Volunteering. Overcommitting. Over-preparing. It looks admirable, but sometimes it’s just a sneaky distraction from what’s most important to you.…
Comfort can quietly cost you the life you really want. When we play it too safe in the name of avoiding unpleasant thoughts or feelings, we drift away from our values and the things that bring meaning, energy, and connection. The Stoics offer a way back through intentional action, self-inquiry, and showing up with integrity – even when it’s uncomfortable. *** I’m your host, Sarah Mikutel, a…
We often have something meaningful to say – but the way we say it can get in the way. We overload our listener with backstory, hoping to make them understand, and end up muddying the message instead. In this episode, I explore why this happens and how a small shift in how we speak can make a big difference. *** I’m your host, Sarah Mikutel, a communication and mindset coach . My work is about…