“Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath.” – Eckhart Tolle Credit: Sinnataggen (1928), Gustav Vigeland 憤怒經常被誤解。 我們許多人都曾被教導,憤怒是一種需要壓抑或盡快擺脫的情緒。當憤怒升起時,我們可能會感到不安,甚至因此羞愧。 但憤怒本身並不是問題。它是一種信號,承載著重要的訊息。它告訴我們:有些事情對我們很重要、某個界線可能被跨越了,或是某個更深層的需求未被滿足。如果我們只把憤怒當成需要控制或消除的東西,就可能錯過它試圖向我們傳達的訊息。 你還記得《腦筋急轉彎》裡的「怒怒」這個角色嗎?他強烈、反應激烈、情緒高漲。但他同時也非常在意公平與保護。他只是用他自己的方式試圖幫忙。我們自身的憤怒,也可以用類似的方式來理解。…
“Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath.” – Eckhart Tolle Credit: Sinnataggen (1928), Gustav Vigeland Anger is often misunderstood. Many of us were taught that anger is something to suppress or move past as quickly as possible. We may feel uneasy when it arises, or even ashamed of it. But anger, in itself, is not the problem. It is a signal, carrying important information. It tells…
17 Jun 2026 “If I am what I have and if I lose what I have, who then am I?” – Erich Fromm Melancholie 2012, Albert György 對許多能幹的人來說,最難熬的時刻往往不是面對挑戰的時候,而是無所事事時那份寂靜的片刻。 這些年來,我發現在診間裡遇見的一些最能幹的人都有個共同模式。他們負責任、體貼又可靠。無論在工作或家庭中,都是他人倚靠的對象。 然而當門關上,他們終於坐下來時,浮現的往往不是脆弱,而是疲憊。 許多人分享著相似的故事:"從小我被教導要持續向前,要有所成就。我根本不知道還有其他生活方式。"…
17 Jun 2026 “If I am what I have and if I lose what I have, who then am I?” – Erich Fromm Melancholie 2012, Albert György For many capable people, the hardest moments aren’t the challenges they face – it’s the quiet moments when there’s nothing to do. Over the years, I’ve noticed a pattern with some of the most competent people who walk into my practice. They are responsible, thoughtful, and…
15 April 2026 “The heavier the burden, the closer our lives come to the earth, the more real and truthful they become.” – Milan Kundera Credit: While You Were Sleeping 2003, Su Blackwell 就在我坐在書桌前,思索這個月的電子報該寫些什麼時,書架上我最喜愛的書名之一掠過眼前。 多年來,米蘭·昆德拉的《生命中不能承受之輕》不僅在智識上,更在情感深處與我相伴。他描寫的輕盈並非來自自由,而是源於無根。那種輕盈不似飛翔,更近乎飄零,與生命中真正重要的事物割裂。與之並存的,是承諾、責任與道德義務的重量,正是這種重量賦予生命意義。…
15 April 2026 “The heavier the burden, the closer our lives come to the earth, the more real and truthful they become.” – Milan Kundera Credit: While You Were Sleeping 2003, Su Blackwell Just as I was sitting at my desk, wondering what to write for this month’s newsletter, the title of one of my favourite books on the shelf caught my eye. For years, Milan Kundera’s The Unbearable Lightness of…
19 February 2026 “ The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new .” – Socrates Credit: Reach (Threshold) 2010, Rose Simpson 在我們慶祝農曆新年之際,許多人都沉浸在美食、佳釀與歡聚的喜悅中。這是一個豐盛與連結的時刻。 但當宴飲持續數日,它可能開始不再像一種有意識的選擇,而更像一種強迫行為。那種「再來一次」的渴望,恰恰凸顯了一個慣性迴路——即使在節慶過後,它仍會自動運轉。 正是這種「感覺習慣比自己更強大」的感受,讓我深思。我們許多人都有希望改變的習慣。不一定是戒除,而僅僅是想讓它變得柔和。讓它再次感覺像是一種選擇,這樣你就能全然享受某事,而不是感到失控。…
19 February 2026 “ The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new .” – Socrates Credit: Reach (Threshold) 2010, Rose Simpson As we celebrate the Chinese New Year, many of us are enjoying incredible food, drinks and joyful gatherings. It's a time of abundance and connection. But when the feasting stretches over days, it can start to feel less…
13 December 2025 “You are all the places you have been, the sights you have seen, the marvels you have achieved, and every soul you have touched.” Credit: Oleksandr Miroshnychenko 當十二月輕輕擁抱住這一年時,空氣中總瀰漫著一種熟悉的悸動。每個人都似乎在朝著新年新希望、新目標與宏大計畫衝刺。但如果,在我們匆忙前行之前,先停下來哪怕片刻,舉辦一場小小的派對呢? 不為他人。甚至不為我們外在的、日常的自我。而是為了那群靜默的、在2025年一路承載著我們的角色陣容。 想像一下:你走進一個舒適、燈光微暗的房間。室內溫暖,柔和的燈光閃爍,背景音樂輕柔低吟。傳來玻璃杯的輕碰聲、幾陣笑聲,或許還有被悄悄拭去的淚水…… 這是屬於你的…
13 December 2025 “You are all the places you have been, the sights you have seen, the marvels you have achieved, and every soul you have touched.” Credit: Oleksandr Miroshnychenko As December wraps her arms around the year, there’s a familiar buzz in the air. Everyone seems to be sprinting toward resolutions, fresh goals and big plans for what’s next. But what if, before we rush ahead, we pause…
12 November 2025 “Many of us have been running all our lives. Practice stopping.” – Thich Nhat Hanh Credit: Wolfgang Stiller Do you ever feel like you're running on a treadmill that never stops - pushing to keep up, to get it right, to keep everyone else happy? And yet somehow… you’re still not quite enough? If that sounds familiar, I want you to hear this: it’s not you. It’s a pattern. And…