Welcome to Havilah’s Podcast where we're breaking the mold, shaking things up, and keeping it real! As a full-time minister for over two decades, women’s pastor at Bethel Church, and the heart behind Truth to Table, Havilah's got some serious truth bombs to drop. Get ready for real talk on life, family, relationships, ministry and more - no fluff, just truth. Brace yourself for laughter, blush-worthy moments, and plenty of ""hey, same here!"" revelations. Let's dive in! www.truthtotable.com…
Why do so many of us feel disconnected from our emotions—or overwhelmed by them?Welcome to Day 2 of I Do Feelings. Today, Havilah explores why we learned to ignore, suppress, or distrust our emotions and how those patterns often started early in life.In today’s video, we’ll look at:👉 How family systems, faith culture, and survival strategies shape our emotional responses👉 Why disconnecting from…
Have you ever wondered if your emotions are something you’re supposed to control, hide, or overcome?What if they’re actually part of how God designed you?Welcome to Day 1 of I Do Feelings—a 15-day Bible study on discerning your emotions with God so you can stop stuffing, spiraling, and second-guessing yourself.In today’s video, Havilah lays the foundation for the entire study by answering one core…
In today’s episode, we’re digging into the real story behind rejection, abandonment, and the confidence it takes to shut down the negative narratives trying to shape your life. I share how my dad’s early years were marked by abandonment and self-rejection—and how everything changed when he met Jesus. I was raised in love and safety, but that same generational thread still tried to attach itself to…
God’s voice doesn’t just speak to your present—it calls you from your future. He already sees the life He designed for you, and He’s inviting you to step into it. What does it look like to live a life you actually want to wake up to? How might unprocessed grief or disappointment be holding you back from pursuing your God-given dreams? In this episode, Havilah unpacks the power of Spirit-led living…
This week, I’m wrapping up our series on The Art of Preaching by talking about something that’s so close to my heart: sustainable preaching. After almost 30 years of ministry, I’ve learned that it’s not just about having a great message—it’s about protecting the rhythm of your life so you can last for the long haul. In this episode, I share practical ways to guard your energy, keep your connection…
This week on the podcast, I’m diving into what it really looks like to preach like it matters. After decades of communicating, I’ve realized how easy it is to fall into patterns and lose that sense of urgency and purpose. But when I sat with a pastor in Brazil who said, “I preach every message like it’s my last,” it stirred something in me. In this episode, I’m sharing the practical ways we can…
On this episode, I’m talking all about what it looks like to preach without fear. If you’ve ever found yourself holding back because you’re worried about what people might think, or editing your message to make it safer, you’re not alone—I’ve been there too. But the truth is, fear dulls our words and keeps us from carrying the authority God has given us. In this episode, I share my own journey of…
This week on the podcast, I’m diving into something that’s been on my heart for all of us who have been preaching for a while—how to find our unique voice again. After 30 years of speaking, I’ve learned that it’s so easy to slip into mimicking others, chasing applause, or just running on autopilot. But borrowed voices don’t carry breakthrough—only authenticity does. In this episode, I’m sharing my…
This week, I’m wrapping up our very first season of The Art of Preaching by talking about what it really means to stay in this for the long haul. We live in a culture that loves viral moments and big stages, but God’s call isn’t about one-hit wonders—it’s about faithfulness over decades. In this episode, I share my own journey of preaching in living rooms, group homes, and small youth groups long…
In this episode of The Art of Preaching, I’m diving into something every communicator faces but few talk about—what if I bomb? What happens when the mic doesn’t work, the slides are wrong, the room is dead silent, or worse—when you just totally miss it? I’ve had those moments (more than once!), and I’m sharing one of my most humiliating fails and what God taught me through it. We’ll talk about…
In today’s episode, we’re talking all about what it means to preach like a human. If you’ve ever felt like you need to sound like someone else to be effective—this is for you. I’m sharing how comparison and mimicry can steal your confidence, and why your quirks, your tone, your pace—your actual personality—are not obstacles, but part of your pulpit. God didn’t call the polished version of you; He…
In this first episode of The Art of Preaching series, I’m sharing the real and raw beginnings of my preaching journey—how I never thought I’d be a communicator, why insecurity doesn’t disqualify you, and how saying “yes” in hidden places is where the real calling begins. Whether you’ve never picked up a mic or you’ve been preaching for years, this episode is for anyone who’s ever whispered, “I…
A couple months ago I spoke a message called False Endings, and we have heard so much feedback about this message, I wanted you to hear it. Stay to the end because the last story - might surprise you. Learn more and connect with Havilah: + Havilah's Site: http://havilahcunnington.com + Truth to Table: http://truthtotable.com + Truth Academy: https://thetruthacademy.com/
This week, we’re talking about hitting a relational wall—you know, when you love the people in your life but also kind of can’t stand being around them? Yep, that one. It’s one of the hardest walls to face because we’re only half of the equation, and it can feel messy, exhausting, and honestly, pretty lonely. In this episode, I open up about how I’ve navigated relational shutdown, what Proverbs…
This week, we’re talking about what it feels like when your body hits a wall—when you’re doing all the things, but still feel like you’re dragging yourself through the day. I’ve been there. From chronic exhaustion to physical pain that forced me to stop everything, I’m sharing my own story of burnout and the wake-up call it gave me. If your body is waving the white flag, this is your reminder that…
This week, we’re talking about hitting a mental wall—when your brain feels like it has 67 tabs open and half of them are buffering. You’re doing the things: sleeping, hydrating, showing up... and still, you're exhausted, foggy, and stuck in thought loops that won’t quit. I’ve been there too. In this episode, I share real strategies that help me when my brain taps out, from interrupting the spiral…
This week, I’m kicking off a brand new series all about hitting the invisible walls in our lives—you know, the ones that show up out of nowhere and leave us stuck, exhausted, and wondering what just happened. I had a whole different plan for this month, but I hit one of those walls myself and knew we needed to talk about it. Whether it’s mental, spiritual, physical, or even environmental, these…
This week, I’m talking about what it feels like to think you’ve missed your moment—like maybe God handed your calling to someone with a prettier feed or better timing. If you’ve ever found yourself scrolling and spiraling, thinking “I should be further along by now,” you are not alone. I’ve been there. I share a personal story about a big opportunity I turned down, how it looked like I got left…
This week, I’m talking about something we don’t often say out loud—what happens when burnout starts to look spiritual? You know that moment where you’re still called, still committed, but your capacity feels like it got hit by a truck? Yep, we’re going there. I open up about my own experiences with soul fatigue, what Scripture really says about growing weary in well-doing, and how to recognize the…
Waiting on God can feel like watching water boil—slow, frustrating, and honestly, a little painful. In this episode, I get super real about what it’s like to be in a waiting season and the lies we start to believe when things don’t move fast enough. I share how God used my single years and silent seasons to build something in me that couldn’t be rushed. So if you’ve ever thought, “If God loved me,…
In this episode, I open up about what it feels like when God goes silent—and how that silence can shake our faith to the core. If you've ever felt like your prayers are hitting the ceiling or like you're on “read” with heaven, you’re not alone. I talk about how silence doesn’t mean absence, and how divine delays are often God’s strategy to develop us in hidden places. I also share some honest…
Hey friends! I’m so glad you’re here for this parenting episode—it’s a special one because I’ve got my husband, Ben, joining me, and we’re diving into your top parenting questions. From navigating the dating convo with your kids (yes, even the 6-year-olds asking about boyfriends!) to figuring out when and how to discipline without losing your mind—we’re going there. We're not claiming to have it…
Hey friends! This week on the podcast, I get to have a really special guest—my dad! We’re talking all about the power of a praying parent, especially when it feels like you can’t do anything else. If you’ve ever felt heartbroken watching your kids or grandkids wander away from God or unsure how to reach them as they grow, this episode is for you. My dad shares his wild testimony—from atheism to…
Hey friends — this episode is one of those raw, real conversations straight out of my own life, and honestly, I think you're going to feel so seen. I sat down with Jason and Lauren Vallotton and what started as a chat on marriage turned into me getting super honest about something I’ve been walking through as a mom of boys. We unpacked the tension of raising strong, healthy men while still holding…
Today we're kicking off a brand new parenting series, and listen — it's not just about raising "good kids" or making sure you don't mess them up (because hello, no pressure, right?!). What if God’s plan for parenting is actually about transforming us just as much as it is about raising them? I’m sharing some real talk from my own life — the mess, the beauty, the discipleship happening inside of me…
You guys—we made it! We’ve hit the fall season, and this one is all about the harvest. But here’s the thing: harvest doesn’t just mean abundance and celebration (though yes, we’re totally dancing on grapes over here 🍇). It also means transition—and that can feel a little unsettling. In this episode, I’m unpacking what it looks like to truly reap what you've sown and how to celebrate, prepare, and…
You guys—this one is for those of you who feel like you prayed for growth, said yes to the breakthrough, and now you're wondering, “Wait, why does it all feel harder?” In this episode, I’m diving into what summer looks like in your spiritual life. And spoiler: it’s not just sunshine and boat rides. It’s warfare, responsibility, and learning how to keep going when things get tough. I break down how…
In this episode, I’m diving into what it really means to be in a spring season spiritually — and trust me, it’s not all butterflies and breakthroughs! I talk about how the very opportunities you’ve been praying for can also become distractions if you’re not careful. Just because a door opens doesn’t mean God’s asking you to walk through it. I’m sharing the PLANT acronym (you’ll love it!) and how…
In this episode, I’m diving into the spiritual season of winter—yep, that season nobody volunteers for but somehow always shows up. If you’ve ever felt like God’s ghosting you, like your prayers are hitting a wall, or like you’re stuck in a never-ending freeze, this one's for you. I share personal stories (yes, I’ve definitely been there), practical ways to stay rooted, and some survival hacks to…
In this episode, we're kicking off a brand-new series all about spiritual seasons. Have you ever felt like your faith was thriving one moment and lifeless the next? You're not alone—it's totally normal! We’re diving deep into understanding the spiritual seasons of winter, spring, summer, and fall, and how each one has a unique purpose in your journey. I share my own story of navigating through a…
In this episode, we’re answering your top questions about marriage! We dive into everything from navigating conflict and staying connected to building trust and keeping intimacy alive. Whether you’re newly married or have been in it for years, we’ve got real, practical advice that’s going to help strengthen your relationship. I’m excited to share insights that will bring clarity and encouragement…
Hey friends! In this episode, I’m sitting down with Jason and Lauren Vallotton to talk all about marriage—the real, raw, and sometimes messy journey of doing life together. We’re diving into what it looks like to build a strong foundation, navigate conflict with grace, and keep intimacy alive even in the busiest seasons. Jason and Lauren bring so much wisdom and honesty to the conversation,…
In this episode, we're diving deep into the heart of marriage with Barry and Lori Byrne, the powerhouse couple behind Love After Marriage and Nothing Hidden Ministries. We’re talking about the real struggles, the tools for breakthrough, and why transparency is the key to a thriving marriage. Whether you’re married, engaged, or hoping to be, this conversation is packed with wisdom on intimacy,…
Hey friends! This week, we're diving deep into marriage—what makes it healthy, what challenges come up, and how to keep growing together. And I’m not doing it alone—Ben’s here! We’re getting real about our own journey, from the early struggles to the tools that transformed our relationship. We talk communication, intimacy, and the mindset shifts that made all the difference. Whether you're newly…
Hey friends! Today, we’re diving deep into a topic that doesn’t get enough real talk in the church—dating, sex, and singleness. Yep, we’re going there! I’m sitting down with my friend Elles Maddry, who, along with her husband, leads Moral Revolution, an organization dedicated to helping people navigate healthy sexuality within faith. We’re unpacking everything from dating apps to setting…
Wow, this episode was a deep one! I sat down with my friend Aaron to talk about a topic that so many struggle with but rarely discuss—porn. We unpacked why it’s not just about self-control but about deeper needs, how shame keeps people stuck, and what real freedom looks like. Aaron shared his personal journey, the science behind addiction, and practical steps for breaking free. Whether you’re…
Today we’re diving deep into a topic that honestly, we don’t talk about enough—the science of sex. Last time, we covered the basics of healthy sexuality, and today, we’re taking it further. Did you know that sex isn’t just about the physical? There’s a biological, emotional, and even spiritual design behind it. We’re talking hormones, bonding, God’s intention, and why culture often gets it…
Wow, this episode is going to be a powerful one! We're diving into a topic that doesn’t get talked about enough—sex and sexuality. I know, I know, it’s not always an easy conversation, but that’s exactly why we need to have it. This month, we're unpacking what healthy sexuality looks like through a faith-filled lens, tackling big questions like intimacy, marriage, and even the tricky subjects like…
In this episode, we dive into the power of attention and how it shapes our productivity and outcomes. I share personal insights and practical strategies for staying focused, avoiding distractions, and prioritizing what truly matters. Whether it’s tackling the one task you've been procrastinating on or learning how to set boundaries to protect your mental energy, these tips are game-changers. Plus,…
Are your assumptions secretly running the show? In this episode, we’re diving into how assumptions shape our decisions and relationships—often without us even realizing it. I share personal stories, like my old red convertible days, and explore how our minds love shortcuts (hello, confirmation bias!). Together, we’ll unpack practical ways to identify and challenge those sneaky thoughts holding you…
This week on the podcast, we’re diving into the fascinating connection between our minds and bodies, exploring how intentional living can unlock your full potential. I’m sharing some of my favorite insights, practical tips, and even personal stories to show how things like sleep, exercise, and mindfulness can profoundly impact not just your mental clarity but your whole life. Plus, I’ll let you in…
Welcome back to the podcast! This week, we’re diving into an essential concept for the new year: moving from defense mode to discovery mode in our brains. I share insights from one of my favorite books, How to Have a Good Day by Caroline Webb, breaking down how our automatic and deliberate systems influence our responses to stress. We’ll explore practical ways to shift out of the fight, flight, or…
Hey friends, welcome to a brand-new year and an exciting new series on Intentional Living! This month, we're diving into how to live with purpose by understanding how our brains work and how that impacts our choices, behaviors, and faith journey. I'll be sharing practical, actionable steps to help you align your thoughts with God's design and set priorities that actually stick. So, whether you're…
Hey there! In this episode, we’re wrapping up our series on navigating life’s big decades with a dive into the 50s. I chat with Paula, a vibrant, wise, and courageous soul who shares her journey of transformation, from battling life’s curveballs to rediscovering herself in this new season. We talk about embracing change, taking risks, grieving past disappointments, and dreaming boldly, no matter…
Hey friends! In this episode, I sat down with my incredible friend Michelle Raftery to dive into the unique challenges and joys of life in our 40s. We talk about discovering strengths, letting go of unnecessary expectations, and how grace and reflection have shaped our journey. Michelle shares her wisdom on finding freedom in embracing who we really are and the beauty of evolving through life’s…
Are you navigating your 30s and wondering if you’re “doing it right”? Join me in this conversation all about the ups, downs, and edits of life in your 30s. I’m sitting down with Esther Garcia, a creative genius and a mom of three, as we dive into the challenges and victories of this transformative decade. From redefining friendships and career paths to embracing personal growth and faith, this…
In this episode, we dive deep into what it’s like navigating your 20s—the highs, the lows, and the wild unpredictability of it all. I’m joined by Katie, a third-year student at Bethel School of Supernatural Ministry, who shares what being 25 really feels like. We talk about embracing experiences, taking risks, and shaking off the pressure to have it all figured out. Whether you’re thriving,…
Hey friends! In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into the unseen struggles of Hearers—those prophetic personalities who connect with God through words, phrases, and conversations. We’re talking about the challenges, like when you only get part of the story or feel like God’s gone silent. I share tips on building trust, stewarding what you’ve already heard, and leaning into gratitude to quiet the…
Hey friends! In today’s episode, we’re diving into the "knower" prophetic personality. Are you someone who just knows things deep in your spirit, without visions or emotional experiences? You’re not alone, and you’re not missing out! I share my journey as a knower, the challenges of feeling underrepresented in spiritual environments, and how to embrace your unique way of hearing God. We’ll also…
Hey friends! In today’s episode, we're diving into the unique challenges faced by those with a "seer" prophetic personality—those of us who receive visions, dreams, and images from God. If you've ever felt isolated, misunderstood, or even disillusioned because of the vision God has given you, this episode is for you. We'll talk about handling loneliness, the frustration of delayed dreams, and the…