july ins & outs.

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IN.

“Laundromats: Secret spots. Time portals. You truly never know who you might meet here.” - Anonymous, 19, Boston, Massachusetts

“Staying up too late: I’m tired of morning people. I want to spend this one life reading Sally Rooney under the covers.” - Anonymous, 29, Little Rock, Arkansas

“Going alone: If no one replies, go alone because why the hell not.” - Krystal, 17, Dallas, Texas

“Going braless.” - Margaux, 18, New York City

“Paid Substacks that still release all their articles for free: Yes babes, I’ll support you anyways.” - Anonymous, 28, Seattle, Washington

“Ugly Betty: I’ll take Ugly Betty over Carrie Bradshaw any day.” - Anonymous, 30, New York City

“Tourists: It’s summer, and the World Cup is playing where I live. There’s loads of tourists here we might think of as ‘cringe.’ But they’re just excited! Let them live.” - Libby A. 21, New York City

“Evite: Yes, I want a personal invitation to the weekly Thursday morning office meeting.” - Anonymous, 39, San Francisco, California

“Desire: The meanest thing you can do to yourself is pretend you don’t want the things you want.” - Anonymous, 16, Billings, Montana

OUT.

“Being lowkey about your birthday.” - Anonymous, 26, New York City

“Saving your special things: Being alive is special! I refuse to be the relative that ‘kept these untouched in a box their whole life, but they died, and I don’t want this stuff.’” - Anonymous, 22, Salt Lake City, Utah

“Running shoes: Please don’t look like you’re about to burst into a jog unless you’re actually about to burst into a jog.” - Anonymous, 18, Denver, Colorado

“Job titles: If you can’t explain your job & what value it creates in a few sentences, it’s fake to me.” - Anonymous, 27, Chicago, Illinois

“Everythingmaxxing: Optimizing every input of your life isn’t self improvement; it’s quiet violence.” - Welby, 52, Singapore

“Self help podcasts.” - Sophia, 14, Toronto, Canada

“Pickleball: Just play tennis.” - Anonymous, 17 Los Angeles, California

“Worrying about your body in summer clothing: You have a swimsuit body because, guess what, you can wear a swimsuit.” - A Thought Daughter, 16, Toronto, Canada

“Travel vlogs: Just…enjoy your trip??” - Anonymous, 33, Honolulu, Hawaii