Staying Stuck?

Nature herself reminds us of this constantly. Seasons change. Rivers carve new paths. Forests burn and regenerate. Mountains shift over time. Nothing in life is meant to stay static for too long, yet so many of us cling tightly to old identities, old stories, old ways of being, even when life itself is asking us to change.

I hear it all the time. I want to transform my business, body, life, team, mindset, insert your latest desire for difference.

Wonderful.

Now my next questions: What are you WILLING to do about it?

• What level of awareness do you have around the behaviors driving your life, leadership, relationships, business, health, or current reality to be exactly what they are?

• How much time, energy, discomfort, and resources are you actually willing to invest in bringing this change to life?

• And perhaps the most important question of all: why? and Why now?

After nearly two decades working in leadership transformation and change management, I can usually sense pretty quickly someone’s real willingness to evolve. Awareness matters deeply, but awareness alone changes very little. Behavior has to follow. Practice has to follow. A new way of being has to be embodied long enough that it starts reshaping the architecture of your life itself.

It takes time. Repetition. Falling off and starting again. They say it takes 21 days to build a habit and 90 days to create a lifestyle.

I know this professionally, but even more so personally.

I have radically changed my life many times over. From non-athlete to athlete. Employee to entrepreneur. Non-techie to technologist. From stability to uncertainty. From comfort to climbing some of the harshest environments on Earth.

I know what it feels like to have complete awareness around what needs to change and still resist it with every part of yourself. I also know what becomes possible when your willingness finally becomes greater than your attachment to who you’ve been.

Going from not being able to run a mile to standing on top of Mt. Everest did not happen because I suddenly became “motivated.” It happened because eventually my behaviors, mindset, training, environment, and choices started aligning with the reality I said I wanted.

Comfort is tricky. Beautiful in some ways, yes. But it can also keep us idle. Change is scary and comfort can feel good, even when that comfort is quietly limiting our evolution.

“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.” — Thich Nhat Hanh

Words from my beloved teacher.

Sometimes comfort looks like repeating painful patterns because they are familiar. Staying in environments that diminish us because at least we know how to survive there. Recreating scarcity because scarcity became our baseline. Clinging to identities we’ve long outgrown because we no longer know who we are without them.

Challenges in the mountains and as an entrepreneur taught me something I return to constantly:

We do not discover the truth of who we are through the comfort of what we know. It’s why they say magic happens outside your comfort zone.

Our belief systems are formed primarily through our early developmental childhood experiences. You can learn more about this through Gabor Maté’s work around trauma, addiction, and human development. By our mid-thirties many of these patterns are deeply wired in, and shifting them can take considerable effort, AND it is still absolutely possible.

For the most part, all deep and sustainable personal change involves examining and shifting our internal beliefs and patterns. This starts with awareness around what they are. For large organizational change and evolution, the same applies when looking at company culture and the belief systems and patterns established by leadership teams running these organizations.

The messy bit isn’t sexy. You cannot always see the physical progress, and sometimes you get going only to have to take ten steps back and start again. Like the person that starts and breaks diets a million times before they finally realize that hitting their ideal health goal is not about a temporary diet, but rather a lifestyle shift in how they eat, move, think, and nourish themselves as a whole.

People love the idea of transformation these days. Social media especially has glamourized it into some beautiful peak experience. Go to the retreat. Sit with plant medicine. Do the workshop. Cry beautifully on your IG reel. Come home transformed.

Yet most real transformation happens quietly in the messy middle after the experience is over. It happens when no one is watching.

When you return home and realize your nervous system, habits, relationships, environment, business, health, and patterns all still require you to make different choices every single day.

I’ve openly shared that plant medicine and psychedelic therapy have been part of my own healing and mental wellness journey in recent years. I’ve also watched people spend years chasing ceremony after ceremony with very little real change in their lives. Loads of awareness. Very little integration.

Because the hardest part is not the awakening.

It is living what you now know.

The wisest shamans will tell you the plants do 5% of the work and you have to do 95% of the work afterward. The sacred act is not simply sitting with the plants. It is living their teachings once the ceremony is over.

Not the therapist.
Not the coach.
Not the consultant.
Not the trainer.
Not the retreat.
Not the shaman.

They can be guides, mirrors, experts, wisdom keepers. But eventually you come in. You and your willingness to move beyond every comfort you know and integrate the change through shifts in behaviors and practices in your actual daily life.

No shortcuts. Just daily little steps paired with determination, willingness, and compassion.

Compassion is a key ingredient of change, transformation, growth, and ultimate evolution. Compassion for every version of yourself that got you here. It is easy to look backward and wish we had known better, moved faster, wasted less time, made different choices. But staying trapped in shame only keeps us frozen between who we were and who we are trying to become.

Not just goal setting. Vision.

Where are you actually going? What does it feel like? Can your nervous system even hold the possibility of the reality you say you want?

Breathe into the feeling of the desired change and hold it in your heart. When it gets hard and monotonous, this vision is what keeps you moving. On some level, you have already lived the new reality simply by allowing yourself to emotionally experience it.

Athletes understand this deeply.

The first time I attempted Everest in 2011, I struggled to truly visualize myself on the summit. I could see the climb, but not the arrival. After turning back due to hypoxia just hours from the summit and being hit by a storm, I integrated meditation and visualization much more deeply into my training before returning in 2013.

By the second expedition, I had meditated through storms, heartbreak, fear, illness, uncertainty, and exhaustion. I practiced seeing myself on that summit over and over again until my body, mind, and spirit could finally hold the possibility of that reality.

And when I finally stood there years later in tears overlooking the Himalayas and all of the world, it felt strangely familiar. Like some deeper part of me had already been there before my body arrived.

I still close my eyes sometimes and relive that moment. It feels like I am back there again.

As a leader, it is not enough for you to hold the vision alone. The real power in achieving a vision is when your team can not only see it, but believe in it. That is a practice in itself. Helping people connect to something larger than themselves and feel that they are part of building it.

We can discover ourselves through willingness.

• Willingness to release identities that no longer fit.

• Willingness to face ourselves honestly.

• Willingness to evolve beyond the limitations of who we once believed we had to be.

And maybe this matters now more than ever.

AI is reshaping business and humanity in real time. Our planet is exhausted and fighting for her own survival and evolution daily. Systems are fracturing. People are disconnected from themselves, one another, and the Earth itself.

We are not separate from any of this.

Our inner and outer worlds are deeply interconnected. The way we lead, consume, create, love, build, and move through life impacts not only ourselves, but one another and the living planet around us. We are part of her evolution too, in case you missed that part.

There were years of my life where I felt like I was being thrown into a rushing river I could not control. Relationships ending. Identity collapsing. Financial uncertainty. Grief. Reinvention. Resistance. I resented, tasted bitterness, resisted, and clawed desperately toward the shore trying to hold onto versions of myself and my life that were already dissolving.

Keep going girl, ride the waves of change like your life depends on it, because it does.

At times I felt like I was drowning.
At times like I was on the greatest adventure of my life.
At others, strangely peaceful as the water carried me to places I didn’t know I needed to go, not only around the world, but more importantly within myself.

And somewhere along the way, I stopped fighting the river long enough to actually look around.

To see the beauty in it all. To appreciate how miraculous it is to be alive at all. To feel the magnetic pull of my higher self asking me to stop clinging so tightly to who I had been and keep swimming toward my inner truth instead.

Don’t get me wrong, I still get thrown into the river sometimes. Sometimes I jump in willingly now. Each time with a little more awareness, a little more willingness, and a little less resistance to letting life change me. Because only then can I actually discover the beauty in what is trying to emerge next.

Evolution is beautiful. The growth, not always.

But perhaps that is the sacredness of being alive at all.

I want to acknowledge that not all change is easy. Some change brings enormous suffering. Losing a loved one. Losing a job. Financial crisis. Social terror. Environmental destruction.

As someone that has lived through some of these, I can assure you there is a lotus somewhere in the mud.

Without the mud there would be no lotus.

I am deeply grateful for my Zen Buddhist practice and teachings from Thich Nhat Hanh for helping me embrace, understand, and ultimately transmute suffering back into love again.

We are living at such a critical moment in history that is asking humanity itself to evolve with greater consciousness and love at the center.

Businesses are not excluded from this conversation. Regardless of all the AI innovation, there are still human beings leading the ship.

So I’ll leave you with this:

• Where in your life are you being asked to evolve?

• What are you still clinging to simply because it is familiar?

• Where do your behaviors not match the life you say you want?

• And what would happen if your willingness finally became greater than your fear?

And maybe that is the real invitation right now: to evolve consciously instead of accidentally. To stop clinging so tightly to familiarity and ask ourselves who we are actually becoming beneath all of it.

• Do we wait to be thrown into the rushing river?

• Or do we jump in willingly and courageously and learn to enjoy the ride along the way?

Lots of love,

G

If you are experiencing a moment of change, transformation, or needed evolution in your own life, work, leadership, or organization, I would love to connect and explore how I can support.

From large scale global transformation initiatives with some of the world’s biggest organizations to deep personal transformation, I genuinely love helping people move through change and connect with the beauty of the journey along the way.

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