working with the inner argument

There are very few things I can guarantee, but one thing I can say assuredly is that there are aspects of ourselves we are not in love with. I can also guarantee—or get asymptotically close to it—there parts of ourselves we judge, criticize, and actively argue with. Watch the video below for a comedic example.

The inner argument is a naturally occurring phenomenon based on a design feature of the mind—modularity.1 That feature, in itself, is nothing to be concerned about. It’s when that inner conversation heats up, gains momentum, and is left unattended that it can lead to anxiety, aggravation, and fruitless expenses of energy.

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The reason this work is valuable (I would argue invaluable) is because our moment-to-moment experience—and all it adds up to overtime—is largely determined by what’s happening in us that we’re not aware of and aren’t taking care of. FYI, the group facilitation will not require a confounding inner spelunk in front of strangers. We’ll use effective and helpful multi-sensory techniques and you can keep your discoveries to yourself.

The last CLEAR Practice Circle took place on a working day and everyone stayed the full 90 minutes + 20 minutes past closing time. I took this as an indication that something valuable was being exchanged.

HOW THE PRACTICE CIRCLES WORK:

1. Each time we meet, you’ll come with or discover something that feels like an inner argument or inner friction related to a project, event, relationship, dream / longing, or daily interaction in which you get off-centered.

2. As a group, we’ll slow down, take a purposeful pause, focus inward, wonder, and map that inner argument using visual, embodied, and multi-sensory techniques.

3. We’ll then use one multi-sensory practice to respectfully relate to it and learn about it so your energy can be freed up.

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This work is not about trying to fix and change everything outside of us but about learning to notice and appreciate what is happening in us and stop fighting with it—maybe even radically come alongside it—so we can soften our grips and more spaciously lean into what we CAN impact.

FYI, these Practice Circles leverage techniques from our recent book and highlight a method I’m teaching in another upcoming book (just sent the proposal to my literary agent yesterday :).

WHAT QUALIFIES ME TO FACILITATE THESE CIRCLES:

> > rigorously trained in the inner sciences for 20 years with some of the most respected teachers in the U.S.2
> > designed multiple systems of experiential learning including #Gamestorming, #Infodoodling and #DeepSelfDesign®
> > highly-seasoned visual facilitator, having led hundreds of group experiences with participant sizes ranging from 5 - 5000
> > demonstrated personal post-traumatic growth and resilience in significant ways, defying clinical odds of thriving
> > authentic presence who encourages questions and does not profess to have all the answers

PRACTICE CIRCLE DATES AND TIMES:

» 8am (San Francisco) / 10am (Austin) / 11am (New York) / 4pm (London)

» 90 minutes - one Friday a month for nine months - starting January 30, 2026

1. January 30

2. February 20

3. March 20

4. April 17

5. May 15

6. June 26

7. July 24

8. August 21

9. September 18

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If you become a Paid Subscriber (or buy a coffee!), I’ll email you details to join when a Circle approaches. And hey, if you already are a Paid Subscriber, this is my way of extending thanks. No one can say what the world will bring; I’m glad for every glimmer.

To pacing in the Year of the Fire Horse,
Sun