Men discovering their receiving sexual energy (part 2)

In the same way as the partiarchical mindset of masculine being superior to feminine is probably more deeply ingrained in our soul than we think, it is at the same time true for the idea of a man going into a sexually receiving position is connected to disgust because it would mean the man giving up his superior “giving” position.

In my previous post “Men discovering their receiving sexual energy (part 1)” I have shared about the obstacles we encounter when we normally want to integrate the typically as female (or yin) characterized receiving energy and when we want to get whole and integrate both. In this post I want to speak about the organ of receiving and practical aspects.

The proof that “nature” did not exclusively dedicate it for the purpose of getting rid of your excrements is apparent in the fact that we have one of our most potent erogenous zones in it, the prostate. So the “unnatural” argument is just a sign of fear. Why fear? Well yes, men, we - too - can learn to let go of control on the basis of confidence and love, so that fear is no longer needed. Nor the fear of letting go of control, nor the fear of being gay or whatever we may think we are. It’s just about returning to ourselves and in so doing discovering a whole other area of our sensitivity and sexuality! And with it comes the reconciliation with our nature (not something unnatural as it is proclaimed).

1. If you have friends of confidence it’s great to share the curiosity of exploring. If you feel they may be just as stuck in alpha-mindset, it might be better to go the first step alone and not expose ourselves to too early critique and questioning.

2. Start experimenting in the containers of sexual encounters and practices that are already available to you to dive into the receiving role - for example to let go of all control and in a way responsibility and allow just to be given pleasure (without already going into exploration of new erogenous zones).

3. When you would like to discover your receiving organ, start to play with plugs, make it get used to this “other way round” direction than we are used to know it when we go to toilet. Get it out of the idea of being something dirty that needs to be rejected. You might start to experience how erogenous it is! Start gentle and focus more on the sensation that you create then on any goal “to get it in”. The door opens when it wants to open. If you cannot dictate your cock, you will much less dictate your anus and that’s great. Just follow the flow.

   

4. Allow a friend or partner or a professional masseur to give you an outside analy massage or a prostate massage. Even outside with slow circular movements around the rosette, “boring” always the same movements for several minutes allows to let to. The anus is our strongest muscle and allow this very muscle to let go of control is big. I tell you. If you are ready to be entered the giver can read (and should be able to read) your anuses non-verbal language when the anus starts to allow.

5. You can also ask a person to pleasure you with the same but-plug or dildo you used alone before, now as you have gained some security around the sensational response of your anus, when you still controlled it yourself. Then you can even let go of more control.

6. Finally that penetration of the but-plug can equally happen through a female partner with a strap-on dildo or, if you are open to it, you can allow a man to penetrate your anus. Hey man, this is not gay! It is just a man in his typical giving energy to allow you to experience your receiving female energy, which - want it or not - is part of you. And may be it’s a good idea to reconcile and integrate parts of us?? But if that is too much linked to gay-panic, allow yourself to go slow and focus on both the physical sensation and the inner experience of receiving energy.

If you have experienced this stretch before and gone through the discovery and found something new and precious, don’t hesitate to share in comments.

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