Franco’s blog
Hi, this is Franco I am a husband, a dad of two kids, and a Buddhist who loves the Stoic way of living, writing, reading, overthinking, and traveling even i...
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Ways to learn
Welcome back! There is so much to learn as a Dad. There is so much to learn as a child. But have we spent enough time to step back to think about what learning is all about? My experience is that the best learning can happen anywhere we want. So much more is happening outside of school. I wish I understood this a lot earlier. Here are 3 things for you to take away in this lesson: Active & Passive…
Practice
Welcome back! Congrats on making your way to the final lesson of this guide. Today, we're tackling one last common and subtle topic most of us Dads will miss. Here are 3 things for you to take away from the last lesson: How to test what you've learned in real life A strategy to practice Put everything together You don't need to do it alone Knowledge is power. But knowledge without action is like a…
How to be with your kid(s)
Welcome back! In this lesson, we'll discuss an overlooked aspect of how to be with your kids. We all assumed we knew a thing or two about spending time with our kids. But I have to admit that I knew nothing about how to be with a newborn, a toddler, or an adolescent. Do you? Here are 3 things for you to take away in this lesson: The art of being The science of being A proposal The Art My daughter…
Let it go
Welcome back! As dads, our rational minds tell us to protect our innocent child from all the possible risks and dangers out there. We might think that we are doing something good for them to step in and intervene, but that doesn’t tend to go so well in the long run. One way or another, you just have to let them go. Here are 3 things you'll takeaway in this lesson: Why it's so hard to let go What's…
Light & Darkness
Welcome back! One day, I woke up at 5 am. It was still dark outside. And I couldn't go back to sleep. I drank some water, stretched a bit, and started writing the draft of this lesson. In this lesson, we'll discuss an overlooked aspect of what makes you, you. Here are 3 things for you to take away from this lesson: Light Darkness A proposal Light Even if you think your kids wouldn't know, I would…
Body, People, You
Welcome back! In the last lesson, we talked about why ignoring your kids (safely and intentionally) makes sense from an evolutionary perspective. In this lesson, we're diving into an area that is often overlooked by dads — that's YOU. Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Same for us as dads. Raising kids is not a 100-meter race with only one winner. It's a marathon that you run with your kids. This…
Ignore your kids
Welcome back! In the previous lesson, we talked about seeing your kids as sunset, a philosophical way to think of your kids. In this lesson, let me convince you to ignore your kids. Yes, you read this right. You should ignore your kids, and for good reasons. By the end of this, you're going to learn 3 things: Understand the issues around modern parenting Evolutionary history of raising kids The…
See kids as sunset
Let's dive into a pattern I see in dads: We don't know what it means to be a dad. What's "Dad" after all? How can we become the kind of dad we want to be? By the end of this, you’re going to learn 3 things: Embrace your kid(s) They are perfect already Don't force them to become someone else Before we begin, here's a short version of my story: My wife and I had our daughter in 2020. Life was great.…
Start here
Welcome, Dads! If I have learned anything from my two kids, it's the magic of learning. Once we are willing to accept the fact that we are just as clueless as our child, it opens up space for us to learn, grow, and evolve with them. By the end of this self-paced guide, you'll walk away with peace of mind, confidence, and gratitude. This is not a course, a quick hack, or a user manual. This is a…