how to hate your own life!

If I see one more article, book, or YouTube video promising to help me “live my best life” or “be the BEST version of myself”, I might just start plucking my scalp hairs out one by one.

As a self-improvement-obsessed girly, let me be honest with you. That type of content can get pretty annoying sometimes. And it’s not the content itself that I’m starting to get irritated at, it’s the execution, the same recycled mantras. I’m so bored.

But here’s what I believe. I believe that real, lasting change is one that happens when you become so disgustingly fed up with yourself and your bad habits, that you can’t stand them anymore. That is the real catalyst. And that type of delivery (the one we see everywhere)… just doesn’t make one realize that anymore.

So, here’s something different. A simple beginner’s guide on:

how to hate your own life:

• be an emotional sponge. allow every remark and opinion dig into your skin and settle there. listen to everyone else but yourself.

• care so much. care about what would happen if you said ‘no’. care about how you’re being perceived. care about repeating an outfit. care about how others live their life. care as if the world would stop spinning if you showed up as your most authentic self.

• live in denial. yes. be the victim. move like someone is coming to save you. believe that maybe if you stayed stuck a little longer, a helping hand would magically appear above you.

• hate your dreams. keep them on a shelf until they expire. second-guess your passions. constantly believe that you are not capable of achieving them.

• have no purpose. wake up everyday, eat, sleep and scroll. then repeat.

• believe that sleep is a waste of time. deny your body rest. live like a vampire.

• boo yourself off the stage before you even get to perform. do 90% thinking and 10% doing. become a self-sabotaging expert.

• be a certified ‘yes’ person. become a pushover. spend your life bending to be like-able to others - even when you don’t even like them.

• wear those negativity glasses all the time. ignore everything you should be grateful for. be a negative ball of energy and sneeze pessimism onto everyone in your life.

• compare yourself. compare your looks, growth & life to everyone else’s. compare, compare, compare.

• stay comfortable. run away from uncomfortable situations and emotions. wake up being the same person every day.

  and lastly,

• wait for the perfect moment. don’t take any steps until the the stars align and life hands you a handwritten invitation to do so.

If any of these points hit a nerve, congratulations! You’ve just found your growth edge. You can ignore it - or, you know, try doing the opposite.

Thanks for reading!

With Grace,

Always ;)