Generator, Manifesting Generator - Before You Say YES, Ask Your Body

Always, truly always, when someone comes to you with a wish, a request, a problem, or an expectation —> feel yourself first.

Ask yourself:

Do I actually want this?

People come with a request.
They come with expectations.
They come with an unspoken wish.
They come in distress.
They come with a problem.
They’re looking for a solution.

And it’s normal that someone else’s struggle moves us.

We’re human.

It’s normal that we want to help. That we’re ready to step in. That we’re already searching for a solution before we’ve even checked in with ourselves.

But here’s the key:

Before we give our time, our energy, or a solution, we check whether our body is even available for it.

Is there a YES?
Is there a NO?
Or maybe there’s simply no response at all?

Because we’re not the only ones in the world who can help.

If our body doesn’t say YES, that doesn’t make us selfish.

Maybe someone else is there who can help.

Maybe the person doesn’t need a solution at all.

Maybe they just need space to speak.

To be heard.

To find their own strength.

Because sometimes, by helping too much, we unintentionally take away someone’s chance to discover what they’re capable of on their own.

We hand them the fish before we’ve even checked whether they want to learn to catch it themselves.

Maybe that’s where the saying comes from: “No good deed goes unpunished.”

I don’t know.

Deep down, I don’t actually believe that.

What I do believe in is a kindness that starts with how we relate to ourselves.

A kindness that doesn’t come from exhaustion.
A kindness that doesn’t require self-abandonment.
A kindness we feel in ourselves first, and only then share with others.

So when we feel like we could help, we don’t jump straight into fixing it.

We ask ourselves first.
We check our own response first.
Then we follow our Authority (emotional, etc.).

You’ll be surprised how often the answer is still YES.

But this time it’s different.

It doesn’t come from autopilot.
It doesn’t come from a sense of obligation.
It doesn’t come from the fear that we have to be good.

It comes from ourselves.

And that’s where the miracle happens.

We put ourselves first —> and we still help others.

Our boundaries stay respected.
Our energy doesn’t get spent where there’s no YES from us.

When we give from a place where the response is real, helping doesn’t drain us.

It comes full circle.
It nourishes.

We stay full too.
And that’s how it should be.

This is not about performing.
This is not about the mask we wear to look good.

This is about truth.
And truth is the body’s YES, NO, or nothing at all.

Truth is what happens when we actually ask.

P.S. And just like that, we work through quite a few life lessons at once 😁

👉 take care of yourself
👉 set boundaries
👉 help others
👉 be human
👉 practice self-awareness
👉 return to the present moment
👉 be present

…and probably a few more along the way.