‘The Parable of the Chinese Farmer’ and Cognitive Flexibility
Perfectionists, in large part due to their general cognitive rigidity (e.g., the inability to hold multiple and seemingly conflicting perspectives More
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This blog explores, and helps others navigate through, issues which are pertinent to all human beings, from death to self-esteem. Ideas are medicine!
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Limerence and the Fear of Love
The state of limerence is most obviously a fantasy, defined by psychologist Dorothy Tennov as the romantic fixation on an More
The Autistic Mozart
Perfectionism is pronounced in the autistic population (Greenaway et al. 2010), as autistic individuals tend to struggle with black and white More
Following Beauty is the Key to Happiness
In the end, obsessiveness and perfectionism are mere stand-ins, or metaphors, less so symbolizing the chase for external success and More
Can Others Respect You if You Don’t Respect Yourself First?
“How do you expect anyone to respect you when you don’t respect yourself?” is akin to the platitude that you More
The Terrified Cynic: Why Some Prefer Depression to Anxiety
We fear life as much as death. And our cynicism, a persistent sense of hopelessness, is little more than a More
Perfectionism Is a Form of Self-Deception
Perfectionism is the ultimate form of self-deception. Perfectionists tend to fluctuate between believing they’re perfect, resisting the notion that they caused More
Psychotherapy Isn’t Always About Becoming Better
Psychotherapy is the process of acclimating one to the ordinary. Many, however, approach treatment in the opposite way, looking to psychology More
The Cognitive Traps of Perfectionism
While each of us are the centers of our own universes, sometimes, our judgments of ourselves should be de-emphasized, especially More
The Foolish Quest for Ideal Love in Maladaptive Daydreaming
The philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche remarked, One loves one s desire, not the desired. This is certainly applicable to many perfectionists, who tend More