The Other Half of Love: Why Fathers Matter
On Father's Day, a reflection on the developmental and social necessity of dads and what we lose when we pretend they are interchangeable.
The Lost Instinct by Erica Komisar, LCSW
Welcome to The Lost Instinct by Erica Komisar, LCSW. This publication is a home for my writing where I reflect on the science, the culture, the politics, and more surrounding motherhood and parenting.
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This Mother’s Day, Demand Policy That Supports Mothers
Flowers, chocolates and brunch are nice. But the best gift of all would be acknolwedging the role of mothers in society though action.
Why I Wrote The Parent's Guide to Divorce
... and why somestimes a good divorce is better than a bad marriage for kids.
Talking to Children About Tragedy
A Guide to Fostering Resilience with Compassion and Care
Reclaiming Compassion in a Polarized Age
What Charlie Kirk's untimely demise and reactions to it reflect about our culture.
Why Marriage Still Brightens Many Women’s Lives and Why We Tell a Different Story
In a cultural landscape often inundated with narratives portraying marriage and parenthood as restrictive burdens, a groundbreaking report from The Institute for Family Studies and the Wheatley Institute presents a compelling counter-narrative: married women, surprisingly, report significantly higher levels of happiness …
The Truth Isn’t Anti-Woman
It’s pro-everyone, above all our children
The Emotional Consequences of Disconnection
How Immaturity and Negativity Fuel Parasocial Attachments and Hate-Following Online
Why Attachment Circles Matter—and Why I’m Launching This Now
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The Misery Myth
What Chappell Roan’s Comment Reveals About Our Culture’s Disdain for Devoted Mothers