# How to Be Good to Yourself When You're Hard on Yourself

A clinical psychologist cuts through the noise to bring you what works for social anxiety, perfectionism, and adjacent modern worries. Also dumb GIFs. More at ellenhendriksen.com

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## [Is it anxiety? Is it ADHD? Why we feel like we have both, plus how to tell the difference.](https://ellenhendriksen.substack.com/p/is-it-anxiety-is-it-adhd-why-we-feel)

_2026-08-07 · Ellen Hendriksen_

If Dan Harris sent you from Ten Percent Happier, welcome!

[Listen](https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/210105967/5b22728008d1bc465d4e611744558f9f.mp3)

## [The weird things we do when we’re lonely (PART TWO: Pulling away)](https://ellenhendriksen.substack.com/p/the-weird-things-we-do-when-were-c9f)

_2026-07-17 · Ellen Hendriksen_

And more low-lift shifts to try instead

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## [The weird things we do when we’re lonely (PART ONE: Trying too hard)](https://ellenhendriksen.substack.com/p/the-weird-things-we-do-when-were)

_2026-06-27 · Ellen Hendriksen_

And low-lift shifts to try instead

[Listen](https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/203726642/9e265945418d290704be2122ddd068a9.mp3)

## [Good news: You don't have to work so hard to make friends](https://ellenhendriksen.substack.com/p/good-news-you-dont-have-to-work-so)

_2026-06-16 · Ellen Hendriksen_

Four circumstances that do the heavy lifting for you

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## [Why the people we barely know help us feel connection and belonging (and fulfill needs friends can't)](https://ellenhendriksen.substack.com/p/why-the-people-we-barely-know-help)

_2026-05-29 · Ellen Hendriksen_

In praise of acquaintances

[Listen](https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/199639559/da8123942e881c76113be98e1b79a397.mp3)

## [What if your social anxiety is fight, not flight?](https://ellenhendriksen.substack.com/p/what-if-your-social-anxiety-is-fight)

_2026-05-15 · Ellen Hendriksen_

What to do when anxiety makes you guarded, irritable, or plain old grumpy.

[Listen](https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/197715490/04489d88736d1b62ce18a8d3c8454ea9.mp3)

## [Getting unstuck when perfectionism hijacks your job search](https://ellenhendriksen.substack.com/p/getting-unstuck-when-perfectionism)

_2026-05-05 · Ellen Hendriksen_

Control what you can, and radically de-personalize the rest

[Listen](https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/195649422/47e33c79b537a7b6d3eb771bebff74ac.mp3)

## [How to disagree without making it weird](https://ellenhendriksen.substack.com/p/how-to-disagree-without-making-it)

_2026-04-07 · Ellen Hendriksen_

Or being fake, a jerk, or a doormat

[Listen](https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/190009836/7a0ec15237fa1c720a4d5da7a563391a.mp3)

## [Why We Struggle to Receive Love](https://ellenhendriksen.substack.com/p/why-we-struggle-to-receive-love)

_2026-03-20 · Ellen Hendriksen_

Love may be all around us, but it won’t matter unless we can receive it.

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## [3 healthier alternatives to “I don’t care what people think.”](https://ellenhendriksen.substack.com/p/3-healthier-alternatives-to-i-dont)

_2026-02-27 · Ellen Hendriksen_

Spoiler: what do \*you\* think?

[Listen](https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/189057714/905f0b07903c763a98b34a447b50d333.mp3)