You'll never become confident until you understand this

You will never become confident in your life because you don’t know about these four psychological realities which actually make a person confident.

You will search on the internet 'how to become confident’.

• It will give you an article saying '10 ways to look confident’.

• It will tell you to shake hands firmly, maintain eye contact and eight other bullsh*t.

But what you haven’t understood yet is that these things are the consequence of confidence.

Not the cause behind it.

And if you think that you can have your way out by faking confidence.

Let me give you a reality check.

People are not that gullible.

The human mind is wired to pick up Emotional Mismatch.

When someone’s words or their body language says that they are fine but their expressions show discomfort.

You have this gut feeling saying there is something wrong.

Even if you cannot consciously pinpoint that thing, your neurons catch that thing very well.

Because confidence is not a behavior. It’s a neurological state.

That state enters your nervous system when your inner narrative, emotions, and actions are aligned with each other.

Now here are those 4 things that help you achieve that state Confidence:

When your room is clean, your thoughts are also organized.

Notice sometimes that when things are unorganized in your house or at work, you feel constant anxiety all the time.

• The day you wake up late, that day feels very sad and gloomy.

• The day you miss the gym or cheat on your diet, that day you feel guilty.

This is why order is important because it prevents your energy from getting leaked.

Discipline when no one is watching you is equally important.

Believing that everything is going to be fine.

You will figure it out.

This belief should be a part of your being.

It should be as good as

• ‘No matter what, I will always be able to take care of myself’.

• ‘I will never become a burden on anyone’.

Basically, you have to trust your ability to handle things when they fall apart.

This belief is rare and it is magnetic.

See, confidence without gratitude will always become arrogance.

That’s why you must have the perspective that:

What you’ve been given - there are many people who would probably cut off one of their hands to get it.

And I’m not talking about corporate or management leadership.
I’m talking about old-school tribal leadership  -

• When people think they can depend on you.

• When they feel safe around you.

Not because you are the loudest or you can beat someone, but because

• You can make decisions.

• You can think clearly under pressure.

Basically, you are the one people want around when things go wrong.

How do these things make you confident?
Because every human brain tracks Coherence (Coherence means something that is systematic and consistent).
So, when your identity, your behaviour, and your presence are aligned  People feel it, you feel it.

And that is the psychological backbone of authentic confidence.

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