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dear parents · Aug 20, 2026

Both Anxious AND Capable at the Same Time

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Phil Boucher, M.D. · dear parents

Acid blockers and food allergy, SPACE with Robyn Isman, and a wild three-year-old

New format this week: one study, one conversation, one listener question. Tell me in the comments if it works.

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Is my baby’s reflux medicine a problem? (01:20)

  • What acid suppression changes about the gut, and why the gut is where the immune system gets built

  • The numbers from a 2025 database study: PPIs in the first year linked to roughly five to six times the rate of food allergy diagnosis, with antibiotics showing a dose-dependent pattern

  • The stepwise approach I run before I write a prescription: feeding position, milk supply, dairy or soy removal, two weeks at a time

  • When antibiotics are non-negotiable, and when a one-sided ear infection can safely wait

Why isn’t my kid’s anxiety getting better? (09:35)
Therapist Robyn Isman built her practice around SPACE, the Yale protocol that treats child anxiety by working only with parents.

  • What accommodation actually is

  • Unilateral parental action: you decide, then you tell your child... you don’t ask how they feel about it first

  • The announcement, and exactly what it sounds like when you change bedtime

  • Delaying, disengaging, distancing: three ways to hold the line when your kid escalates

  • Validation plus confidence, and the wording that keeps it from sliding into reassurance: not “I know you can do it,” but “I know you can do it while you’re scared”

  • Why reminding an anxious kid of past successes usually backfires

  • Where school avoidance, permissive parenting, and the phone in your kid’s pocket all collided

Is my wild three-year-old ADHD? (56:20)
A mom asks about her impulsive, intense, transition-hating three-and-a-half-year-old.

  • Why I don’t diagnose ADHD at this age, and what I look for instead

  • The sensory-seeking behaviors that get read as defiance: crashing, jumping, oversized hugs, shutting down in noise

  • Sleep first. Snoring, mouth breathing, restless nights, wired but tired

  • The short list of labs I’d actually consider, and why I’d call an OT first

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