I'm an interviewer at my company and burnt out
“I don't feel like I am heard or taken seriously. How can I push for change and preserve my energy?”
💁🏻♀️ Dear Marie
An amateur advice column.
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How do you address issues with a coworker?
“This seems to be a pattern where we prepare really well, but then she interjects her thoughts in the midst of a rigidly planned spiel, and it makes us look a little unorganized.”
How do you connect meaningfully with new people?
“I've had some success just meeting people from more varied backgrounds, but have struggled to translate those to more authentic, closer friendships.”
Should I stop speaking at conferences?
“I want to focus my time on other activities, but I'm a bit afraid of losing a bit of my identity.”
What is your best advice for new developers?
“I am really interested in other perspectives.”
My manager changed his tune. Now what?
“My productivity got me recruited and hired in the first place, and now it's not good enough.”
How do you coach and mentor women engineers?
“I am a white, cis, male engineer, and a relatively new team lead.”
What do you ask a potential manager about a new role?
“I've been dealing with a not great manager relationship. I think it is time for me to go.”
🙏 How do you find a religious space in the tech world?
“I am not looking to preach to anyone. But I find myself being ashamed of this when I'm around people in the tech industry.”
How do you make friends when you move somewhere new?
“Can coworkers be your friends? How do you find friends outside of work?”
Is wanting a truly kind, inclusive place to work too much to ask for in tech?
“Subtitle: Am I reacting appropriately to these events or am I being too sensitive?”
I'm annoyed with my travel companion. What now?
“It gets worse and worse. I really don't want to talk to her at all now.”
💪 How do you empower yourself?
“I'd love to know what you do to empower yourself against fear and against the voices in your head that try to dissuade you.”
How do you start an advice column?
I definitely did not write this.