My Most-Used DBT Skills
Marianne shares the DBT skills she uses most often.
DBT Self Help
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DBT Skills As New Years Resolutions
Marianne shares a few DBT skills she's using as her New Years Resolutions.
DBT Skills for Your New Year’s Celebrations
With New Year’s fast approaching, it can be a stressful time of year. The forced cheer, long stretches of time spent with family or friends, emotions running high, memories of times gone by, anticipation of the year to come, etc, can all conspire to make what is supposed to be a joyful celebration something [ ]
The Alphabet Soup of DBT: A Walk Through the ABCs
It may seem like going back to elementary school. But don t worry we re not going to sing the actual Alphabet song. As with many of the DBT Skills, this ABC is an acronym for 3 specific and independent skills: Accumulate Positives, Build Mastery, and Cope Ahead. My favorite way to review and practice this [ ]
The Ghosts of Christmas Past: Shame & Love During the Holiday Season
Throughout every Holiday season that I can remember, I’ve referred to to myself as Clark W. Griswold (from the movie Christmas Vacation). I always thought that was because of my love of the holiday, and the relentless pursuit of the perfect “old fashioned family Christmas.” I realized something just this morning as I was coming [ ]
How to Have Healthy Relationships with BPD
Most of us struggle to get and maintain healthy relationships. For someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), it can be even more challenging. People with BPD generally feel emotions quite intensely, and that can lead to overwhelming feelings in relationships. They might also struggle with fear of abandonment, which can lead to behaviours like clinginess [ ]
Centering Myself with Wise Mind ACCEPTS
Throughout the parts of my 44 years that I can remember, I have always tried to race to the finish line. What do I mean exactly? Let’s begin with summarizing a book report to make it look like I read the book, whilst expecting to get an A. Doing the bare minimum and expecting praise, to [ ]
Me, Myself & My Wife: A Spiritual DBT Approach to Marriage with BPD
This year my wife and I celebrated 9 years of marriage. What’s the secret? How did you steer away from divorce? Short answer, Jesus! I’m not going to spend the next few paragraphs preaching, though I could. If you’re familiar with DBT, you’re probably familiar with the spiritual component, why is important? Because to [ ]
Checking the Facts on Shame
About 5 years ago I started to have daily struggles with my mind. The biggest one was unmitigated distaste for myself. I had lived 39 years to this point chasing after people and things that would validate that I was good (not great mind you, just basic good). Most of the time I came off [ ]
Finding Your Purpose in Life
Do you struggle with the sense that your life is not meaningful enough? I recently read The Sunny Nihilist: A Declaration of the Pleasure of Pointlessness, by Wendy Syfret. As she states on page 16: Then it hit me….“Who cares, one day, I’ll be dead, and no one will remember me anyway.” The sense of [ ]