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My mother died on May 20, 2026.
And if I am honest, I am still struggling to make sense of a world that no longer contains her.
My mother and I shared an extraordinary relationship. We were incredibly close. Not merely close in the traditional sense of a mother and son, but deeply connected in ways that shaped every aspect of who I became. She was my first teacher, my first protector, my first source of love, and my first understanding of what strength looked like.
I adored my mother.
Every aspect of her.
Every quality.
Every characteristic.
Every story.
Every flaw.
Every triumph.
Every detail.
I studied her the way one studies a science project. I paid attention to how she thought, how she moved through the world, how she loved people, how she protected her family, how she handled conflict, how she carried herself with dignity, and how she maintained her humanity in a society that often sought to deny it.
In many ways, I am my mother’s miniature reflection.
Her mini-me.
The older I became, the more I realized how much of her lived inside of me.
The confidence people see in me came from her.
The fearlessness people see in me came from her.
My unwillingness to apologize for my Blackness came from her.
My insistence on speaking truth came from her.
The reason I have been able to walk through this often hostile society unapologetically is because my mother taught me that my humanity was not negotiable.
She taught me that before schools could try to teach me otherwise.
Before employers could try to teach me otherwise.
Before politicians could try to teach me otherwise.
Before America could try to teach me otherwise.
She taught me who I was.
And because she taught me who I was, I survived.
As I grieve her loss, I find myself moving between profound sadness and profound gratitude.
Sadness because I miss her in ways that language cannot adequately describe.
Gratitude because she no longer has to witness what this country continues to become.
She no longer has to watch politicians attack voting rights.
She no longer has to watch the continued dismantling of civil rights protections.
She no longer has to witness the endless reinvention of white supremacy under new names, new slogans, and new legislation.
And perhaps that is why, as I watch the news today, I find myself asking a question that has become increasingly difficult to ignore:
What was it all for?
My mother was born into a world shaped by segregation.
Her parents came from Texas.
Like countless Black Americans during World War II, they migrated westward seeking opportunity, dignity, and survival.
They arrived in California believing what millions of Black Americans believed:
That hard work mattered.
That sacrifice mattered.
That perseverance mattered.
That America might eventually become what it claimed to be.
My grandparents worked.
They built.
They sacrificed.
They endured.
And like so many Black families, they hoped their children would inherit a better world.
As I grieve my mother’s passing, I find myself wrestling with a question that feels almost unbearable:
What was it all for?
What was the suffering for?
What was the lynching for?
What was the humiliation for?
What was the segregation for?
What was the disenfranchisement for?
What was the violence for?
What was the sacrifice for?
What was the struggle for?
For more than four centuries, Black people have fought to secure rights that were supposedly guaranteed to all Americans.
And yet those rights continue to be challenged, restricted, weakened, and attacked.
Again.
And again.
And again.
The history of Black America is, in many ways, the history of a people fighting to be recognized as fully human.
The Dred Scott decision declared that Black people had no rights that white people were bound to respect.
The Fourteenth Amendment was intended to overturn that lie.
The Fifteenth Amendment was intended to protect Black voting rights.
Yet almost immediately, the United States Supreme Court began dismantling those protections.
Slaughterhouse.
Cruikshank.
The Civil Rights Cases.
Plessy.
A century and a half of legal decisions narrowed, weakened, and hollowed out the promises Reconstruction sought to make.
What we are witnessing today is not new.
It is familiar.
It is American.
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