Most family trips that don’t work out, actually are likely in trouble before you even leave home. We’ve been traveling as a family of 5 for 18 years and have been through it all: infants, toddlers, and teens. But it really doesn’t matter how old the kids are, the biggest mistake I see is the same. And it’s not just when you’re traveling with kids - whether your family is a group of friends, or senior parents, or just a partner - the same rules apply.
They’re planned with one audience in mind: either the kids or the adults (or just for one person in the group).
So you end up with one of two things: a trip that keeps the kids constantly entertained but feels a little flat for the adults… or a trip that adults love while the kids slowly unravel in the backseat wondering when it gets fun.
The better trips aren’t kid focused or adult focused centered: they’re both.
Not in a “everyone compromises and no one is thrilled” way but in a way where each day has something for both. A hike that’s just adventurous enough for kids to feel capable, but scenic enough that adults actually want to stop and take it in. A town where there’s room to wander, but also a playground or a swim spot or a bakery that becomes the daily highlight. A pace that leaves space for spontaneity instead of packing every hour.
That’s really the shift: you’re not planning a kids trip or an adult trip. You’re building a rhythm where both get what they came for, and taking the actual people into account.
Here are a few ways we’ve balanced this when planning:
Do not plan an adult activity (like a 3 hour meal with toddler) that is completely not age appropriate - you will all be miserable
Choose one of two activities that you kids will like - thats it - the rest of the activities should appeal to everyone.
Ask everyone to choose one activity
Expect your kids to do things they don’t want to all the time. Don’t love hiking, well we’re doing 1 hike and you choose the next activity. Travel is compromise.
If you’re looking for ideas that actually strike that balance, start here:
Have fun out there,
Gretchen
How to Plan a Family Trip with Kids that is Actually Fun
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June 17, 2024
Teens and kids can be amazing travel companions but come with their own set of challenges. One minute they are happy and loving this adventure and the next moment you’re confronted with - “I’m bored,” “it’s hot,” Can we leave?” “Is this supposed to be fun?” These are all actual quotes I’ve heard from my own kids.
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