“I can finally feel you. I feel safe. I know what’s expected of me and what to do.” I was bewildered hearing those words come out of Deanna’s mouth. I always thought my leadership style was so great. Share the vision and give people lots of room to blast their own path. But it wasn’t. When I started my spiritual journey in 2007, I found so much solace and power in that path. I applied it to…
As you may know, I don't buy into Western medicine. It doesn't have a functioning understanding of humans: how we function, what makes us healthy, and what makes us sick. The fact alone that nobody is seriously investigating the placebo effect and figuring out how to leverage it to heal, despite every single random controlled clinical trial proving that the placebo effect is real and works (that's…
I still remember that day in the elevator in IKEA. My wife had taken a shopping cart into the elevator. I thought that wasn’t allowed. I got so scared. I was going to say something to her, but then some other people entered the elevator, and now I was also afraid of showing them I was scared. So I stood there in silence. Shaking with fear . And then when we got out at the…
You've tried beating yourself up for years and years. Where has that gotten you? How about trying something new? Maybe you're afraid that if you loved yourself you'd stop improving. That's not true. In fact, the opposite is true. Your self-hate, your self-criticism, your self-judgment, is exactly what's keeping your stuck. Love and accept all of you. And then choose to build…
I know it's cliché, but please please ... remember to focus on what you have to be grateful for, not what's missing or what could be better. I fail miserably at this myself sometimes. The pain of being a visionary is, it's easy to see what could be. But reality is never that way. I learned from the best of them (my dad) to always see what's wrong with everything. Enter every…
I remember what it was like before I found my purpose. I would chase whatever seemed like it was going to give me that all-elusive success. Whatever seemed cool or clever or profitable. But most of them ended up failing, and then I was back at square one. I found my purpose in late February 2008 on a cold winter evening, living room filled with moving boxes because we'd just moved into this house,…
A lot of people go around feeling guilt over all kinds of things all the time. Have you noticed that too? Guilt is rarely a useful feeling. It doesn't make things better for you or for anyone else. Sure, if you really fucked up, it's okay to feel a sense of guilt for a moment. Then you'll want to take action to remedy it, and then let it go. If you didn't do anything wrong, the guilt serves no…
I documented my video setup the other day. Time to do the same for my audio setup. For microphone, I use a Shure SM7B on a cheap fixed On Stage desk mount stand . I find that shock mount and pop filter is not necessary with this setup. The microphone comes insulated enough. I run this to an Apollo Twin audio interface . The Apollo lets you run software emulations of great hardware processors…
Tony Robbins is famous for saying "success leaves clues". Modeling others is incredibly powerful. But there comes a point where you have to realize that no one has the answers to the big questions in life. Our parents don't. Our politicians don't. Our media don't. Our teachers don't. All they have are partial answers. Answers that worked for them. (Or so they think.) No-one's been exactly where we…
Lots of people love playing the victim. "I can't." "It's too hard." "It's not my fault." "If only..." What's worse, though, are people playing the hero. "I know, it's hard." "Poor you." "Here, let me do it for you." The hero gets to feel good about themselves because they're helping the poor victim. They get to forget their own pain for a minute, while they caretake someone else. But there's a…