The Mindsight of Passing Tail-Lights Mindfulness Practice

A few years ago I learned a fabulous word, that was made up fairly recently by the person who thought it up, and which I mention in this other piece of mine about words in other languages. It’s Sonder, which is this specific wonder in realizing and recognizing that every person you see is the protagonist of a story as complex as your own – the people that you interact with, or walk past, or are surrounded by on the streets. But it’s also what psychologists call Mindsight—the ability to perceive the mental life of others.

So here’s the practice for today.

When you’re sitting at a red light or looking out your front window at night, watch a single pair of tail-lights disappear around the corner. Instead of seeing a “car,” try to imagine the “world” inside it. Maybe they’re headed home to a cold dinner, or perhaps they’ve just finished a shift at the hospital. Maybe they’re heading to meet friends or family, or maybe they’re on a road trip from out of town.

This practice expands your Empathic Concern. It’s hard to feel cynical or “us-versus-them” when you’ve spent a moment acknowledging the reality of a stranger’s existence and what might be going on for them that we have no idea about.

So, this is a reminder that every window is a story we’ll never read, but it’s nice to know the book is open. It turns a commute into a silent procession of human lives, all moving toward their own version of “home.”

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