The Trap of “Optimization”

Hey there,

I’ve been thinking on the fact lately, that we’ve been sold the idea that if we just find the right app, the right bio-hack (a term I’ve just learned recently, which is making small, strategic changes to habits and behaviours), or the right “flow state,” we can transcend our limitations.

Optimization often acts as a form of ‘temporal theft’, where we treat rituals and relationships as things to be maximized rather than experienced. Embracing an ‘Inefficient Afternoon’ - doing things the long, analog way - reminds us that we are human beings with hearts, not machines designed for software updates.

This is the “efficiency trap”—the idea that the more we optimize, the more we feel like we’re falling behind. And there’s a gap between the modern obsession with “life-hacking” and the reality of being a finite human. Does anyone else hate all the ‘life hack’ videos on social media as much as I do?

We spend so much time “preparing” to live efficiently that we forget to actually live. For the last few decades, we’ve been treating our lives like a software update rather than an amazing gift that has an expiry date.

But here is the truth we’re starting to realize (thankfully): Optimization is a form of temporal theft. We treat our morning rituals, our sleep cycles, and our relationships as things that we can “maximize”. But we aren’t becoming more productive. Instead, we’re becoming more exhausted, more burnt out. We’re treating our lives like a software update—constantly “fixing bugs” and “improving performance”—rather than remembering that we should actually be living because we only have, to paraphrase poet Mary Oliver, this one wild and precious life.

To optimize a sunset (trying to take the perfect photo) is to miss the full beauty of the sky. To optimize a conversation is to lose the real connection. We are racking up a debt of presence that we can never pay back.

The Wonder: The Inefficient Afternoon

I believe in the Inefficient Afternoon. I reject the idea that every minute must be accounted for. The “Inefficient Afternoon” is a defiant act of doing something “the long way” just because it feels good to be a slow-moving being in a high-speed world.

There is a sort of courage in doing something “the long way.” The analog way, for lack of a better phrase. Walking to the grocery store instead of driving; hand-writing a letter instead of sending a Slack message or text; sitting on the porch with a coffee and not also listening to podcast. It’s radical now to just be without trying to do XYZ at the same time. To just slow down in our fast paced world and do one thing at a time, not five different things at once.

It’s the only way to remind ourselves that we are not machines—we are the ghost in the machine.

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