Join Bre, aka The Self-Care Pusher from Southern California, as she shares life experiences, weighs in on current events, amps up her wellness/health habits and finds clean(ish) products to try all for the sake of taking her physical, spiritual and emotional well-being to the next level and (hopefully) inspiring other women of color to do so as well. It's time to become obsessed with our self-care!
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Did you know that you can deepen your self-care practice by implementing the 4 S's? Silence, solitude, surrender and stillness can be used separately or collectively and don't have to be "perfected" in order to be of benefit. When your spirit feels dry and in need of moisturizing, it's likely in need of one of the 4 S's. Join Me On Youtube! Our Sponsors: * Check out Bilt and use my code…
Have you ever woken up completely drained, barely could manage work so blamed yourself for not being "productive enough"? In this episode, we’re unpacking the dangerous lie that rest has to be earned and why so many of us confuse emotional and physical exhaustion with laziness. If you’ve been forcing yourself to function through burnout, overstimulation, or stress just to keep up with a routine,…
Become a private podcast subscriber to unlock new episodes here -> Click Here To Subscribe Hey sis, welcome back to the Brown Girl Self-Care Podcast — the space where we honor our humanity and choose ourselves, unapologetically. This week, we're talking about these jobs, okay? I saw a post on social media from a young woman who started a new job, and just a week or two in, a better opportunity…
Ready to take this deeper? Join the private feed on RedCircle to get instant access to the exclusive 5-day audio series, Stop Fighting for the Bare Minimum <-- Nobody warns you about the silence that comes after you decide you’re done settling. When you stop chasing an opportunity, a relationship, or a dynamic that required you to shrink, you're left with an empty room. And if you aren't grounded…
What does your mental health and well-being capacity actually look like right now? In this episode, Bre introduces the concept of the Self-Care Cup : a powerful framework for measuring your capacity for healing, joy, and resilience. Tune in as Bre breaks down the 4 distinct stages of the Self-Care Cup, helps you identify exactly where you currently stand, and shares the practical steps needed to…
Our safety matters. Period. This episode is a reminder to protect yourself, know your squad, and stay aware of your surroundings. Inspired by the untimely passing of Nolan, this conversation wasn't something I could hold back. Then I'm switching gears into something deeply personal - the in-between place of healing. If you've been doing the work and wondering why it's still taking so long, this…
Are you waiting for a radical sign to finally step into the version of yourself you’ve always imagined? I'm breaking down why that "permission" you’re looking for isn’t coming. Spoiler alert - it's because you are already her. Key Moments: The Radical Sign Trap: Why waiting for the stars to align is actually a form of procrastination. Activation vs. Achievement: You don't become "her" once you…
When plans fall apart or life throws a curveball, what is the very first thing that starts spinning in your head? For most of us, the shock is immediately followed by a wave of self-attack: “I should have known better. I should have tried harder. I should have done things differently.” In this episode, lets talk about the "should" spiral and how we abandon our internal authority when things go…
Now, more than ever, is the right time for you to be thinking about yourself. If you are a Black woman in your 40s, 50s, 60s, or beyond, chances are you have spent decades as a caregiver. Whether you are managing children, siblings, grandchildren, or aging parents, you might be at a point where something simply has to give. If you notice that you are constantly exhausted and your health is feeling…
Have you ever looked at your life and realized things are not going the way you initially designed or imagined? You’re making the changes, you’re being intentional, you’re doing the work—but that "one great thing" you had your heart set on just didn't pan out. In this intimate solo episode I am reminding you that there is something amazing (many somethings in fact) out there for you even if your…
Today I am in conversation with Tara Pringle Jefferson, Author of Bloom How You Must: A Black Woman’s Guide to Self-Care and Generational Healing. Tara is the founder of The Self Care Suite, a digital wellness community for Black women. Over the last decade, she has brought her wellness expertise to corporate audiences including WW, SiriusXM, Wayfair, and Priceline. During our time together we…
Have you ever caught yourself fighting for a situation you already know you don't want because it shrinks you? In this episode, I’m sharing a moment of clarity I had after spending half an hour chasing down someone in a store to inquire about a job. It will make sense when you hit "play" and have a listen. We try so hard to make an uncomfortable situation comfortable just because it feels safe. We…
I'm back behind the mic and dropping some real talk about what happens when life forces you to wake up from autopilot. This week, I’m sharing the raw reality of working a labor-intensive retail job at 50, dealing with the daily grind of pushing carts, and how a repetitive question from an older gentleman in the store literally stopped me dead in my tracks and forced me to look at how I'm…
After an extended hiatus, I'm back behind the mic!! I’m sharing the raw reality of navigating a major life transition at 50, dealing with the structural games of the "outside world," and wrestling with the deeply colonized fear that unless you are young, trendy, and constantly producing, your voice doesn't matter. Spoiler alert: It does matter. True, decolonized self-care isn't about performing…
Let's talk a little about when you are in a season that requires you to un-labor a bit and stop grinding. I believe that Black women deserve more ease and to receive income and abundance with ease, myself included, so there will be times that we are required to un-labor and allow God to step in and provide miracles. This is counterintuitive to the lessons we learned that told us that in order to…
Valentine's Day was just a few days ago, but today we’re talking about the side of love we rarely discuss: the grace of letting go. Inspired by a surprising lesson from Mr. Rogers, this episode explores why we often keep pouring our "salt"—our energy, labor, and essence—into relationships that are no longer viable. Let's talk about the "Fixer" trap, the difference between a rough patch and a dead…
Late in 2025 one of my distractions, one that I wasn't aware of for a while, was fear. I was afraid that If I didn't earn income or receive it in a certain way, I wasn't doing things "right." This ended up putting me into a bit of freeze mode and if you've ever experienced freeze mode you know how much that feels like being stuck in time. In todays episode, let's talk a bit about distractions and…
Hey, hey! Got a great question for you today straight from the community. How can we practice self-care during this time of civil unrest, ICE and fascism. This episode is not all inclusive. My hope is that it allows room for you to reflect on what is important to you. As mentioned in the episode, know your rights. ICE AGENTS ARE NOT POLICE OFFICERS though Police Officers may or may not accompany…
In this episode I’m talking about something that’s deeply personal yet universally human: the courage to share your truth. Sometimes the weight we carry, like shame, fear, embarrassment, or unspoken experiences, can hold us back from living fully. Sharing your truth doesn’t have to be dramatic or performative, it is about creating space to release, reflect, and heal. We’re talking about: Why…
In this first episode of the year, I’m sharing something that may not matter to anyone else on the planet and how it reminded me that self-care isn’t always loud, aesthetic, or dramatic. Sometimes self-care looks like claiming space. Sometimes it looks like taking one small step toward a vision you don’t need to explain to anyone else. We’re talking about: Why small beginnings matter (especially…
The B.E.I.N.G. Space reopens January 3rd, 2026 Welcome to the final episode of our end-of-year series! I am wrapping up our conversation on self-recovery and boundaries by offering a framework for leaving 2025 behind and crafting a intentional, liberated blueprint for 2026. The steps are: Honor the release that needs to happen Your goals don't need to be about fixing your perceived flaws or being…
Following last week’s episode on being your authentic self, today we are diving into the challenging but essential work of communicating new, radical boundaries. This is all about preparing yourself for a truly authentic 2026 where you are free to be yourself. In this episode i'll be sharing: how boundaries are liberation the importance of staying as cool as a cucumber when expressing your…
The work discussed in this episode, as we enter the final days of 2025, is not just about ending the year on a high. What I feel it is, is an opportunity to see 2026 as the year your authentic self is non-negotiable. In this episode we are talking about self-care through the lens of transition, a fresh start, into the new year. In this episode let's explore: Winter as the Shedding Season: Using…
In this episode, I'm getting honest about the moments when your spirit is no longer whispering, but instead she’s tapping you on the shoulder, side-eyeing you, and begging you to just sit down somewhere . As Black women, we’re praised for pushing through, carrying everything, and keeping it all together. But this season is about something different: honoring your humanity, choosing ease, and…
Hello Beautiful Black Woman! In this (rewind) episode I'm sharing five ways that show me the healing work we are doing is actually making a difference. This includes: Understanding that there will still be hard things to process emotionally Understanding my toxic patterns and behaviors Not trying to change people but instead focusing on me Realizing that I can choose what I do for healing Listen…
Overconsumerism this holiday season will not save us. Many of us want to "keep up with the Jones'" when they likely are living check to check themselves. Buying with intention versus buying to people please and prove your worth are different energies. Let's have a quick chat about this. Our Sponsors: * Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/selfcare for a great deal:…
Hey, hey! In this episode I'm sharing part of a recent video I created. In It I talked about the idea of the American dream. By those standards, this vision of success we've been told to strive for, I am failing because my life doesn't align, and that's ok! Listen in for more Our Sponsors: * Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/selfcare for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com * Check…
If you are in need of a reminder to slow down, be present and not feel pressured to buy/have "all the things", this episode is definitely for you! Recently, i watched a movie on Hulu called "Perfect Days" about a toilet cleaner in Japan. I thought it would be about his job (and how could that even be exciting??) but it was about much, much more. I'm sharing six takeaways that will help you…
This episode, what I'm doing for the next 30 days is going to sound crazy. I get it. It needs to be done though because I'm locking in on how I'm blooming versus worrying about laboring to earn money. In our culture 9-5'ing/grinding is where our energy primarily goes and if there is anything left we do a little tending to ourselves. I'm flipping the narrative for the next 30 days and making…
Dear Black women, especially those of us over 40 years old, now is your time (and mine) to get "unstuck." Let's stop waiting around for something magical to happen in order for us to do WHATEVER it is we want to do in this season. This episode is straight from my Youtube Live. Be sure to subscribe there so you can see my beautiful face :). Here is the link Let me know what you thought about todays…
There is a bit of cussery in this episode, heads up. I’m in my 50s and haven’t worked a traditional job in six years. In this episode, I’m sharing how I walked away from my job, the ways I’ve sustained myself, and what rebuilding my dream life actually looks like. I talk about: Why I quit my job and what led up to it How I kept myself afloat through moving, using my 401k, podcasting, freelancing,…
I tried recording this episode on Sunday and when I went to upload it, there was no audio. So I decided to hop onto Youtube Live on Monday morning and record it there. *Trigger Warning* In todays episode I'll be sharing about a young Black woman who unfortunately took her own life. The point of the share is to not only say her name, but to reinforce the idea of Black women staying Black Woman…
I want to preface this episode with a couple of things: #1 – Extreme self-care isn’t about shock value. It’s about survival, liberation, and choosing yourself when everything around you says don’t. #2 – The choices I’m sharing in this episode may feel uncomfortable, even unthinkable, because Black women are socialized to endure instead of disrupt. But these choices are valid. They are powerful.…
I want to preface this episode with a couple of things: #1 - You don't owe the world "your pretty" #2 - The self-care in this episode is less about performance and more about affirming your worth, reminding yourself of who you are and feeling great about yourself, FOR YOU In this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care Podcast, I'm giving you five simple beauty practices that serve as daily reminders…
My sleep has been wrecked since I moved. Last year I had the perfect setup: a bed that supported me, a routine that worked, and deep, consistent rest. Now? I’m on a futon, waking up at 4 a.m. to take my daughter to work, and dragging through the day. n this episode I'm sharing: Why fall naturally shifts your body’s sleep rhythm (and how to work with it) The basics I’m returning to: earlier…
This week I turn 50. Instead of balloons or cake, I’m marking this milestone by sharing five truths that feel carved into me now. Call it my 5 for 50. These are the lessons I’m carrying into this next decade—about boundaries, embodiment, reciprocity, friendship, and trusting the timing of my life. If you’re in your 40s, 50s, 60s, I hope you hear yourself in these truths. And if you’re younger, I…
Boundaries don’t always look like cutting people off or quitting jobs. The ones that actually keep you from burning out are the daily boundaries — the small choices that say: my time, my body, and my energy belong to me. In this episode, I’m breaking down five daily boundaries that protect your sanity: Not answering texts right away Saying “I can’t talk right now” Blocking off the first 30 minutes…
We are out here building businesses, doing side gigs, dreaming about walking in our purpose, right? Yes! As we do this, there may be a pull for you to get out there and showboat just how well you are doing by flaunting your income while encouraging others to quit their job and "get like you." This episode is a reminder that this isn't the way to grow. There will be ups and downs in your…
I’m sharing what it looked like to move from bracing for the worst to making space for the best. This shift didn’t happen overnight, but it’s changed how I move through life, how I feel in my body, and how I trust myself. We talk about: The moment I realized my trust was starting to change How my nervous system used to feel vs. how it feels now Why trust takes time to rebuild Also, as mentioned:…
So many of us are walking around with an invisible contract we never agreed to—but we’re still out here living by it. It's the Superwoman Contract. In this episode, I’m naming what it is, where it comes from, how it keeps us stuck, and what it costs us to keep performing strength. We talk about: What the Superwoman Contract actually is Why we feel obligated to carry so much How this “strength” is…
I'm turning 50 soon, and that shift is showing up everywhere. That includes Brown Girl Self-Care. In this episode, I’m sharing why Brown Girl Self-Care is now centering Black women in our 40s, 50s, 60s, and 70s. There needs to be wellness and self-care conversations for Black women who have entered middle-age. That is what this is. We talk about: Why most wellness content doesn’t hit for us…
Hey, hey! Back with an Eff The Cubicle Friday episode! Can we keep it real today? Straight without the chaser? Some of you listening to this episode will stay at that job you hate, not because you can't rock your gift but because you refuse to believe in yourself. Hit play and let's talk. Also, as mentioned, if you have been doing way too much and can't get a handle on prioritizing your needs,…
We romanticize the idea of creating space—clearing our calendars, releasing relationships, cutting ties with the noise. But what happens when you finally get the space you’ve been asking for... and it doesn’t feel good? In this episode, I talk about the raw, often ignored reality of what spaciousness brings up: the discomfort, the second-guessing, the urge to fill the quiet. If you’ve made changes…
Hey, hey!! This is a replay episode from 2022 and I'm being very, very real about ways "I" was not a safe space for other Black women when I was younger. This is an eye-opening episode because we never intend to harm but if there is unresolved trauma, it's very possible that at some point we will. Recording this episode humbled me but I 'm sharing because it's not about judgement or blame but…
*This episode is a little cussy so nsfw* Hey, hey! In this episode of the pod I'm sharing some thing you need to hear about having your needs met. At the end I also provide a quick affirmation/reminder to carry with you this week. Also, here is the information for the self-care guidance I mention in this episode. Every woman that books this month will lock in the promotional rate for life of…
**** This episode has cussing and also goes into detail about childhood trauma/abuse**** It’s been one full year since I went no contact with my mother. In this episode, I’m reflecting on how I spent the day, the grief and grounding I’ve moved through, and three lessons I’ve learned since choosing distance over dysfunction. This isn’t about being strong or unbothered—it’s about what happens when…
This is an "Eff The Cubicle Friday" episode Real talk—when you don’t charge, you train people to treat your work like it’s free and like they have access to you at any and all times. In this episode, I’m breaking down what happened when I asked for support and got silence... and how I realized I helped create that pattern. We’re talking about why so many Black women feel unseen in their…
We talk about wanting community. Wanting softness. Craving care and to be seen. The thing is though, how are you gonna ask for that from other people, or give it to other people, when you don’t even give it to yourself? In this episode, I’m talking about what it really means to be in community with yourself. You’re out here showing up for everybody else, doing the most, saying yes when you don’t…
In this episode, I’m talking about what it actually looks like to rebuild trust with yourself — especially when you’ve spent a lifetime ignoring your needs, second-guessing your voice, and shrinking to keep the peace. If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns of self-abandonment, this one’s for you. I share the 4 daily practices I’ve been using to come back to myself and start rebuilding that trust in…
Eff the Cubicle Fridays: A New Chapter Begins In this episode, I’m introducing a brand new series called Eff the Cubicle Fridays . This series was born from my desire to break free from the 9-to-5 grind that was draining the life out of me. I share the story of how I launched this podcast while working in a high-pressure corporate job, terrified my employer would find out, and how that fear pushed…
