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My boyfriend keeps a spreadsheet of everything he’s ever done for me. Last night he showed it to me and said, “Look how much I love you. The data proves it.”
We’ve been together three years. He’s always been organized, type-A, very into systems. I thought it was harmless.
Until he opened his laptop.
The spreadsheet had multiple tabs. One tracked money he’s spent on me. Dates, restaurants, totals. Another listed every favor he’s done. Another logged the hours he’s listened to me vent. Another counted compliments, hugs, and how often he says “I love you.”
He scrolled through charts like he was proud.
I told him love isn’t something you audit. That keeping score feels… unsettling.
I left his apartment feeling sick. I can’t tell if this is anxiety, control, or something deeper. What should I do?
-Anna R.
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