In this “never dull” episode, Patrick, Barry, and Ashley share laughs and insights as they navigate the quirks of daily life—from bacon indulgences to the mysterious behaviors of dogs. The conversation opens with playful banter about shadows, with Patrick joking, “my shadow is so powerful,” setting a tone that’s equal parts light and unexpectedly revealing.
What starts as humor (we promise it’s going somewhere 🙃) quickly deepens into an exploration of “the power of shadows”—those hidden parts of ourselves that quietly shape our desires, fears, and behaviors. As the conversation moves between laughter and reflection, it becomes clear that these often-overlooked parts of us might actually have the most to say.
With love, Elder-Barry 😉 , Patrick, & Ashley
P.S. — Patrick will be one of our presenters at our very first Shadow Summit! 🏔
Hi Shadow Friends,
I had a blast hanging out with Barry and Ashley as I peppered Barry with my questions from a man staring at the age of 50. His wisdom was illuminating (teaser: bacon! suffering!). Like many, I discovered the wonderful world of The Tools and Shadow work after watching Stutz. Pearls on a string with little turds inside! Exactly! I was intrigued and quickly coached up by Barry, Kristan, and all things Phil.
I’m a pediatric neurologist, specializing in epilepsy and functional neurologic symptoms–I live and work in the land in between–brain, mind, body. I come from a line of surly Anglican priests and pastors–the world of spirit, soul, and body. That’s pretty much the whole person. Don’t forget all those shadows.
I thought I’d have it all figured out by now. Was I ever wrong! I’m still trying to finish that middle grade novel, launch that epilepsy coaching business, the Maui epilepsy wellness retreats, oh and create more on my own Substack?! I’m trying to not chuck my 16-year-old daughter’s phone into the woods and of course, to realize, that just maybe, I’m already enough and loved just as I am. In the midst of this, going at it alone is not an option. I’m so glad to be travelling this road with you all!
with love…again 😉, Patrick
Humor can open the door to deeper self-awareness
Our “shadows” (hidden parts of ourselves) quietly shape how we think and act
What we tend to avoid often holds the most insight
Everyday moments—like cravings or pet chaos—can reveal something meaningful
Growth starts with acknowledging, not suppressing, what’s beneath the surface
Authenticity comes from blending honesty, curiosity, and humor
Life’s messiness isn’t a distraction—it’s part of the work
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