‘I’m Not Feeling Excited About The Rest of My Life!’
In order to reawaken your passionate, sensitive core self, you have to surrender to the friction, awkwardness, and vulnerability of navigating the real world in real time among real people.
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Advice and wisdom from Heather Havrilesky, published since 2012 (formerly at The Awl and NY Magazine). Paid subscribers receive 1-2 weekly posts on how to navigate our broken world with compassion, realism, and an open heart.
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