i am a registered nurse. i knew this years ago…i would get in my best shape prior to trying to conceive: eat healthy, work out, sleep well, quit drinking caffeine and alcohol. i encouraged my husband at the time to do the same with me. especially encouraged no drinking alcohol on his part. he would decrease his alcohol intake but would never quit entirely. i found it entirely disrespectful, and he would go right back to heavy drinking, as soon as i would become pregnant, he would not abstain during my pregnancy nor while i was breastfeeding to be supportive. he obviously had no will power.
i no longer drink alcohol, from what i hear from my now adult children, he’s a daily drinker and has no plans of ever quitting.